(Closed) Making “executive decision” re: bridal shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If you three agree, go for it. You’re the Maid/Matron of Honor, you do make some decisions. And you do have input, just not from all of them. As long as it’s not crazy crazy expensive, I think you’re good to go.

Post # 4
962 posts
Busy bee

@hotchildinthecity:  I’m confused. What type of place are you trying to pick. I read your post twice and I think I missed it. Sorry!


EDIT:Sorry. Just realized you are trying to pick a location for the bridal shower. Will there be a big cost difference to the girls depending on location? I think you should pick it

Post # 6
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would email them one more time and firmly say that now is the time you’re making a decision and if they aren’t ok with it they need to let you know by 5 pm tomorrow with another suggestion, or something like that. If you really have no time to wait, I’d go ahead and do it. But in my opinion, I think you should write one last email.

Post # 7
1866 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think if you are expecting them to contribute, you should wait and get their input. I would e-mail them and tell them you are considering booking the place you mentioned and it would be approx $x dollars per person, if you have a problem with that, please respond to be by this date…Give them a few days to respond and if they don’t, its on them. I don’t think there is a problem with you deciding where to have it, but if you want them to pay, they should have the ability to voice concerns regarding the cost.

Post # 8
962 posts
Busy bee

@star_dust:  I second this. Give them another 12 hours or so to respond. Be clear in the email that if they don’t respond by the deadline they have no say. That way, nobody can say that you disregarded their opinion, etc. I’m sorry that they are being so flaky

Post # 10
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@hotchildinthecity:  I would go ahead and book the one you like, but be prepared to cover it just in case they don’t want to help. Because they haven’t given input they may have no intentions on helping cover the expense. My sister and Future Sister-In-Law covered the expense of mine, and my other BM’s didn’t do a thing.

Post # 11
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Have you all agreed what portion you’re each going to pay? When it comes down to money, I would double make sure everyone knows what they’re agreeing to and make sure no one has any issues with it, otherwise, you and others may have to pick up more than your portion of the tab; especially if some of them weren’t in on the final venue decision.

I’ve never been a member of a wedding party, but I did end up picking up a portion of the tab for a friend’s bridal shower and bachelorette party because 3/4 of her wedding party took off before the end of the parties and left the Maid/Matron of Honor with the bill and no extra cash.

My suggestion – make as sure as you can that everyone is in agreement with the plan and what is expected (both monetary and non-monetary) of them…then just cross your fingers everyone holds up their end of the bargain.

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