(Closed) Making friends in a new place?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Joining things is an easy way to meet people.  Think of what you like to do:

  • Arts classes (including things like making jewerly, pottery, painting) – try to look for adult ed classes or an arts center
  • Cooking class – look for adult ed or cooking school that teaches laymen
  • Non-team sports (tennis, sailing, kayaking, etc.)
  • Card games or board games – try craigslist, a class for bridge, etc

Also – volunteer!  Great way to meet people and do good too.  Think Habitat for Humanity, a local post-college professionals group, your favorite charity (e.g. for women’s issues, maybe a shelter, for art, the local museum).

See if your college has a club in the area

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I moved from Aus to the UK. My FI has British friends but they are mostly guys, luckily his little ‘group’ are lovely so I hang out with them a lot.

I’ve found, for making ‘my own’ friends, that the girls at work are fantastic, we regularly go out for dinner. The other thing that has worked great was joining a social volleyball team together with my FI (neither of us had played before). That has been really good as well. If I was feeling more sociable I would have joined a netball team as well, there are always great girls playing that. The only other thing I entertained was one of those websites like citysocial, where they organise meet-ups and events for people looking to make friends. The only thing is you have to pay to join and it seemed a bit creepy to me, you have to be fairly confident to go along to an event I would think.

Where are you moving to?

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@canarydiamond:  I am going to comment to follow because we moved to a different province (we are back and forth between two and I travel for work, which adds to the craziness).

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

DH and I just moved across te country and have no idea how to make friends! I’m super shy, so that doesn’t help. He’s seriously wanting to move back “home” because of lack of friends.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Also, be friendly to your neighbors.  And ask your friends if they have any friends in this new place.  Odds are, you can set up a meeting (e.g. lunch or such) to ask about the city and if you hit it off, it may be a new friend.  I’ve moved 9 times before I turned 18, 4 more times since then (several cross-town moves too).  I have a LOT of friends in a LOT of different places (including multiple countries), so I’d have no problem connecting friends. 

 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  Did you move to Raleigh? We’re moving there at the end of the month! Worried about making friends too, but everyone there seems really friendly.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@RunnerBride13:  Yeah we’re close to Raleigh, and the people are friendly. It’s just hard to actually get to know people who you can call a friend.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  I totally get that! I moved to AZ about 5 years ago and had a hard time making close friends. I have a bunch of friends but nobody that I would just call up to hang out. I think that just takes time, and also being more outgoing than I like to be! My FI and I have talked about how we’re really going to have to make an effort to invite people over and put ourselves out there to make friends because we literally don’t know anyone out there! 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@canarydiamond:  Oh yes, moving was definitely easier as a kid (not that I’d have believed you then) because you meet people in school.  I was surprised it was actually a bit hard for me graduating from college, and losing touch with many non-local college friends but not having anyone to socialize with outside a few friends for a while.  So I did many of the things I suggested to you and that plus time (it takes a while to make friends at work or even in groups, much slower than in school) worked.  Now I have too little free time to see friends.

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