Post # 1
I don’t know how common or not common this is in the western world but I found it amusing! Here goes.
My bf told me about when he attended a wedding of his old friend who dated his bride for 10 years.
In the church with the groom and the guests waiting for the bride to arrive, she took about 40 mins to show up on the aisle.
My bf said it looked like she attempted to make her groom get a taste of what it feels like to be waiting.
Post # 3
I really hope no one does this intentionally. Your guests are stuck waiting, too, and this is really inconsiderate to them.
If you want to be “cute” (or passive aggressive…) and force your FI/husband to wait, at least do it on the honeymoon or wedding night.
Post # 4
if i was a guest i would have been seething to be left waiting for so long
Post # 5
I would have left…sorry. I’m a bish though 🙂
Post # 6
Yeah, if I were a guest there, I know I woulda get grumpy for waiting. Ugh.
Anyway how long to wait is normal?
Where I live, EVERYTHING has to go as the plan ON SCHEDULE. No one could take so much to occupy the venue and stuff.
Post # 7
I would be tempted to do this a little bit. Not for 40 whole minutes, but just enough to give him an extra butterfly or 2 in his stomach. 😉
As a guest 40 min would be a bit much
I fully plan on finding some playful, non harmful way to give him a taste of his own medicine when the time comes.
Post # 8
its not always common but i assume the bride or someone in the bridal party was probably running late. i’ve attended a couple weddings that started late. one that was a half hour and another an entire hour [in the hot, hot sun!] both because a bridesmaid/moh was late. i told my bestie that if she was running late to my wedding, i was starting without her. and she said she hoped i would. lol.
Post # 9
That’s pretty rude…if you are resentful of waiting for an engagement on your wedding day, maybe you aren’t ready to get married, LOL.
I was so proud our wedding started on time, haha!
Post # 10
Definitely not something I would do… it is really just childish and children should not be getting married.
Post # 11
We went to a wedding where the bride was nearly an hour late! And not on purpose.
Post # 12
@gramgeek: Lol…i think its funny…like the over all “bride giving him a taste of waiting” but in all reality,…its pretty cruel…guys propose when they are ready and if the bride said yes and is getting ready to walk down the aisle…letting him think for 40 minutes that she may have taken off, isnt cool. As i guest i would have hated being there..
Post # 13
Not cool if other innocent parties are involved: Guests, priest, organist, etc.
Post # 14
It might be kind of cute to add in an extended pause during the processional… have the whole bridal party come down the aisle, and then maybe a 1 or 2 minute delay before the bride. That way none of the guests get annoyed (hopefully), but the groom still gets a tiny taste of what it’s like to anxiously wait!
Post # 15
Honestly, thinking about it – guys wouldn’t be wringing their hands and wondering if you weren’t going to marry them. They’d probably think you were just careless with time or obsessed with your makeup/hair or something. I HIGHLY doubt that many guys would do what a lot of women seem to do (I said a lot, not all :P) and instantly think that the problem is with themselves and not the woman just being rude to their guests. IMO. So while ‘making him wait’ in her head is her being a bish and getting him back, I’m sure he just thinks she has the character flaw of poor time management, lol! Not what she’s going for, probably.
Post # 16
Yikes. Passive-aggressiveness, resent, no consideration for others (guests), selfishness… just to name a few. If I were the groom I’d feel nervous about my decision. She obviously has no ability to forgive. Maybe she meant it as a “joke” but it was in bad taste. He married her. The wait till then is irrelevant. It’s in the past and she had better things to focus on. Yikes again.