(Closed) Making middle name your maiden name?

posted 8 years ago in Names
  • poll: What should I do about my name?
    FirstName MaidenName HisLastName : (23 votes)
    44 %
    FirstName MiddleName MaidenName HisLastName : (29 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 3
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    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I feel like I can’t tell you what you should do, everyone has their own situation.  But I will tell you that I plan on doing your option #2.  FirstName MiddleName MaidenName HisLast Name, but I will go by FirstName HisLastName.  I’m keeping my maiden name as one of my middle names legally more just for me – I have been my name for 33 (will be just about 34 years) by time we get married.  I would feel like I am losing a part of myself if I completely dropped my maiden name. 

    The only advice I can give is look into your heart and do what feels right for you.  It’s a tricky decision and I feel for you.  Good luck!

    Post # 4
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    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I am doing your option number two also

    Post # 5
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    91 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Hi!  I personally am going to go with my first name, my lfamily ast name, and Fiance last name.  I’m choosing that option because my last name is the end of the line in my family.  My father had all sisters, and had 3 girls, and one boy (who, at the age of approximately 50 is still single).  An older sister kept her family name when she married, but they have no children.  So when i marry our last name will be gone!  I want to keep it for those reasons.  But I’ve seen plenty of people use their first and middle names with the new last name.  Have you thought about what the initials will be with each way? I know of a girl who got married and ended up with the unfortunate initials of an A followed by two S’s…..nothing monogrammed for her lol!!  Is there a preference there?  Go with whichever way you feel happiest with!!

    Post # 6
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    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’ve really struggled with what to do about this, too… My FI’s last name and mine are really close, so it ends up practically rhyming. (Think Julia Gulia in the Wedding Singer.) But I’ve decided that I’m doing: First name + Maiden + Married name. … For you, it’s a bummer because people confuse your gender, but it makes my hand hurt just thinking about having to write out First Name + Middle + Maiden + Married every time you have to sign important documents. Plus, it sounds like your last name is important to you, so I would just own the three names and be done with it.

    Actually being confused for a boy isn’t ALWAYS bad. I’m not sure what your profession is, but my mom’s name is Tonya Jill, but she always went by T.J. at work, because through email, people would treat her differently if they knew she was a girl. People were more responsive and respectful when they thought she was a man. I know, it’s stupid, but that’s life.

    Post # 7
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    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My middle name is my mother’s maiden name.  It is my connection to the side of my family that I am very close with.  My current last name I love because it defines my culture… but I do not get along with the family so it is an internal war with me.  I think that I will have 2 middle names.

    Post # 8
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    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m doing your #2 option… tacking on my maiden name to my middle name.  I almost never use my complete middle name (only occasionally use the initial, which won’t change), so I figured why not.  Plus, my middle name is my given Chinese name, so I want to keep it. 

    I think this is a very personal choice– there is no right or wrong way.  🙂

    Post # 9
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    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I love my Dad but I can’t stand my last name so I’m looking forward to ditching it. However, most of my friends have done option #1.

    Post # 10
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    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m going with a second middle name. The Fiance has two middle names, I want two middle names too! 🙂

    Post # 11
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    512 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m going with option 2 as well!  Glad to see so many other girls are – people look at me like I have horns when I tell them that!

    Post # 12
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    1106 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m also going with option #2!! I didn’t want to completely drop my maiden name… I’m psyched I’m keeping it :]

    Post # 13
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    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m doing option #2 for me, for the same reason–my first name (Jordan) is ALWAYS mistaken and my maiden is a boy’s name too. Plus I really just love my maiden name, I’m not willing to give it up entirely!

    Post # 14
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’ll probably do Option #2 legally but just shorten it to Firstname Middlename HisLastName because I use my first and middle name for business but I don’t really like my last name so I don’t care if I include it.

    Post # 15
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    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Regardless whether you’re doing option one or two, how you will handle your email signature at work, credit cards, etc? Also, how will you introduce yourself to people?

    Ms. Name + Married Name?

    Ms. Name + Maiden + Married Name?

    Ms. Name + Middle + Maiden + Married?

    I worry that even though I’m only doing Name + Maiden + Married, it will still be confusing when I have to call a store or company and look up my information. Will they have it under first and middle, first and last, first middle and last?

    AGH!

    Post # 16
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    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I did option two!

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