(Closed) Making Money Back

posted 6 years ago in New York City
Post # 3
46402 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The short answer? No. I think you should have the wedding you can afford.

If you get monetary gifts they will then be gifts, not payments towards your wedding.

Post # 4
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have the wedding you can afford! Most people I know that ended up with enough gifts to equate out to the cost of their wedding included a combined amount between the value of physical items as well as money. The money is also intended to help you start your married life together on the right foot. Your guests will be hoping that you will save it to have a cushion for emergencies or buy yourselves anything you need to start your life together. 

There have been some bees who hardly recieved any gifts at all (monetary or otherwise). In that event you would not be making any money from the wedding anyway and would be out even more if you raised the guest list. 

ETA: If you really want more people there for your day you should try to find ways to cut your current costs. Having your wedding in a less expensive venue, cutting flower budget down, buying a less expensive dress etc. 

Post # 5
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would take the safe route and just have the wedding we could afford.

Post # 6
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I live in NYC too, so I completely understand how pricey it can be! I would say it’s best to stick to the $10,000 rather that count on making the money back. That way you’re not disappointed or in debt after it’s over.


Post # 7
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with everyone else in not planning on wedding gifts to pay for the wedding itself. The exception to this is we did have people who offered to pay for something for our wedding (i.e., we had close family friends who offered to pay for our flowers and favors as their wedding gift to us). Had they not done so, I had already priced out DIY options at the flower district) and we would have done without favors. I do highly  recommend asing friends/family for recommendations on vendors. We saved thousand this way) and for the most part, I was pretty happy with our final vendors.

Post # 8
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

haha what i want to know is how the hell you are possibly having a 10k wedding for 130 people in NYC? I’m getting married in bklyn with 90 people & we are almost at 35k (ugh!)

Post # 9
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@macbeth91512:  It’s not easy. but definitely possible. Our original budget was less than $10,000 for a comparable size wedding although we ended up cutting back and having a smaller wedding with only about 40 people for $3000. Both were NYC, but ultimately we ended up with the smaller wedding because we had to push our date way up. I definitely admire any one who could afford to do the bigger budget, but it was just not realistic or possible for us so we had to find a way around it.

Post # 10
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

don’t count on getting any money back. plan a wedding that you can afford to pay.  we went in with the mentality that we would get $0 from each of our guests. my parents, my brother, my sister, and some other close family and friends gave us more than our per person costs but most gave us the equivalent of less than 10% of our per person cost.  and our per person cost did not include the indirect or fixed costs that we would really be spending the same amount if we had a ten person or thousand person wedding.

Post # 11
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

have the wedding you can afford now!!! If you need ways to cut the budget, try going for off-days or off-season months. i think brunch weddings are really fun, and you would save heaps on the alcohol costs.

Post # 12
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think you should only spend what you have allocated and not count on monetary gifts from others. If anything save that money to start your married savings off nice after the wedding:)

Post # 13
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@bridetobe2385:  Your budget will be a bit over already.  So stick to 10,000, or to $8,000 if you want it to end up at $10,000

However, be creative with your expenses. That’s all being a bee is about 🙂

Find more affordable vendors, search for cool ideas for your reception/ceremony.  And have lots of fun!

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