- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
First of all, I’m new here and this waiting section makes me feel more sane already! haha
Here’s a quick background of my boyfriend and I. We met online 6 months ago. I’ll be 28 next month, he’s 32. Initially we were hanging out 4-5 nights a week, then when hurricane Isaac hit in August he didnt want me to be alone so he came to stay with me, then he didn’t get power back at his house for about a week so he stayed longer. After that it was hard to stand not sleeping next to each other so we’ve only spent maybe 2 nights apart. We both had our own houses, he owns his and I was renting mine, so we were going back and forth, one night at his then the next at mine. We lived about 20 miles apart and my work is literally 1 mile from his house so after many, many discussions I officially packed up my stuff and my kitties and we moved in about 2 weeks ago.
Here’s my issue though… When we first met he was supposedly never getting married and didn’t want kids. A month or so later he told me that I had changed his views on all of that and that he’d be an idiot not to marry me. Around Halloween he told me that he definitely wanted to marry me and have children with me and that the only reason he hadn’t proposed yet was because he couldn’t afford a ring yet. He had mentioned previously that he thought $5k was a good price for an engagement ring, which I think is crazy. So in my head I guess I took that as some sort of challenge to find the cheapest possible engagement ring that I would be happy with. I tried to show him moissanite and white sapphires and other alternatives but he says I deserve a real diamond. We talked about it again the other night and I told him I didnt want to wait forever because he thinks he needs to spend all this money and all he said was that he promises it will happen. I find myself obsessing over rings and constantly searching for the best possible deal and I’m driving myself and my friends crazy in the process.
Logic tells me that its only been 6 months and I need to calm down because I shouldn’t even be worrying about this yet but there’s absolutely no doubt in my mind that I will marry this man and I feel like we’re old enough to know what we want and not need to wait years to make that decision. I guess I just wanted to share and maybe get some advice on how to stay sane through this waiting process?!