(Closed) Making the maids buy shoes

posted 9 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: Is it too much to ask your maids to buy shoes?
    Yes, no one will notice their shoes but you. You're overthinking. : (34 votes)
    68 %
    No, it's a super cute idea. You're overthinking. : (16 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    4566 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Honestly, I don’t really like the way it looks in that picture. What color are your dresses? Do you just like the way this looks, or would silver really look better?

    Post # 4
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    While they might have silver shoes already, chances are they won’t be the same silver shoes, so you might end up with the mismatched look you like anyway. I would ask them their preferences also–some of them might welcome the opportunity to buy new shoes, and others might not have silver shoes or colored shoes and so either way would have to buy new shoes.

    Post # 6
    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Personally, I prefer the shoes to match BUT I also consider it a small detail so I didn’t require my Bridesmaid or Best Man to have matching shoes. I don’t remember seeing them much in the photos anyways. Even with only 3 women to get shoes for, it would have been hard to find something they all agreed on. I just told them silver (didn’t even say what size heel or anything) and they got what they want or wore what they had. Now that I think of it, one Bridesmaid or Best Man didnt even get the silver shoes and just wore black I think (dresses were black except Maid/Matron of Honor who had light pink). Just not that important imo lol Do what’s easiest for your girls 🙂

    Post # 7
    2767 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I’m pretty sure that in that picture the bride still asked the maids to buy shoes.  I highly doubt it that all the maids in that photo had shoes that all were around a purple tone.  I’m sure the bride had asked them to buy pink or purple shoes.

    I think it’s completely fine to ask the maids to buy shoes, especially since they are wearing cocktail dresses and their shoes will be seen.  Please ask them to buy a specific pair of shoes, or tell them a brand and a specific color in that brand.  I told my maids to get brown or gold shoes and in the end their shoes looked kind of funny because they didn’t match with each other.  It would have been best if I had just picked out one pair for all of them to wear.  Keep the shoes inexpensive and it in my opinion it won’t be wrong to ask them to buy a pair.  But I would be upset if I was a maid and you asked me to buy a pair of shoes for $50 or more.  So stick with Target or Payless!

    Post # 8
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I love that picture.  Whatever shoes you ask them to purchase, make sure they are comfortable.  I had to buy a pair of shoes as a Bridesmaid or Best Man that were absolutely miserable.

    Post # 9
    599 posts
    Busy bee

    I can see asking them to buy a specific color shoe, but I kind of think shoes are a very personal thing. There are certain shoes that hurt my feet more but that other people love. As long as they are going along with whatever color scheme you are going for I think it should be fine. If you want them to get different colored shoes just tell them what colors are cool and let them pick. But no one but you will notice their shoes. Everyone else’s eyes will be on you.

    Post # 10
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    If you like the mis-matched look, just tell them to wear whatever shoes they want! That way, if don’t want to buy new ones they don’t have to, but they still can if they want.

    Post # 11
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We did mismatched shoes…i told them “nude, gold, or blush metallic pink all work” and there is not ONE photo where you notice they all have different shoes. But it all went together, you know? And, the girls were comfy all night and I didn’t feel bad asking them to spend a certain amount of money–it was up to them.

    Plus…I know I personally cannot wear about 4 different styles of shoes. Slingbacks, peep toes, pumps without ankle straps, and anything 3″ and up I simply cannot wear (ok the 3″ up i don’t wear b/c i’m tall). They fall off my feet, so just make sure you girls actually can wear certain styles!

    I just know i’d be crabby if a bride said “here wear these!” because I’d go “um…they’re gonna fall off. I swear”

    Post # 12
    1565 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it depends on how expensive the dresses were and if you’re requiring them to buy other things as well or they need to spend a lot on the bachelorette party, travel to wedding, etc. By themselves, shoes aren’t a huge expense if you just specify the color and let them get whatever they like, but combined with all the other expenses of being in the wedding, it might be too much for something that doesn’t matter hugely. I think the mismatched look is really cute, by the way!

    Post # 14
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I asked all the girls to wear ivory, buff or tan shoes. I wanted them to all be comfy so I didn’t want to pick a shoe, but I wanted them all to be in the same family. If they have something already more power to ’em, if not, there are tons out there that aren’t terribly expensive.

    I think the mismaatched look is cute too!! Whatever you do though, remember that no one’s really going to be looking at them or their shoes but you. 🙂 Everyone else will be looking at you!!

    Post # 15
    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My bridesmaids are buying their dresses and their shoes. I am paying for their jewelry, hair and make up ( as a gift) for them. However, I decided to do the same platinum colored shoe for all of them. They all loved the shoe ( I let them decide which one felt more comfy) I just chose the color.

    Do what you think is best, but remember that they will be wearing the shoes all day and they will have to keep the shoes. Talk to them and see what works best.

    Post # 16
    2397 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I bought my bridesmaids their shoes as part of their gift.  I got a really good deal on them (less than $20 each)! It is definitely ok to ask them to pay for them though.  It’s pretty typical, especially with shorter dresses.


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