Male Bee – Struggling w/ Size

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
9595 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

nyguy :  2-2.5 with a double halo on a 4.5 finger is going to look like a superbowl ring (which some people are into). I would only proceed if shes a flashy bling bling type who would love the attention that comes with it! If she wears more delicate, elegant jewelry in general I would not go that route. I like the other setting you posted better. Get a perfect 1.8 diamond for it and it will still look huge. 

Post # 32
251 posts
Helper bee

Just a thought, but maybe you could surprise her with the stone ( maybe set in a simple silver setting) and have the fun of choosing/ designing a setting together? That way she gets to choose exactly what she wants on her finger for the many years to come and you get the surprise of the proposal. I had that with my husband only the other way around. We choose the diamond together and I told him I wanted simple, low as possible on the finger and no claws and he designed it for me and surpised me with it and I absolutely adore it.

Post # 33
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

nyguy :  To be honest…if the surprise is important to you then don’t compromise it. Pick a killer stone. Have it set in a simple, classic 6 prong solitaire. There are very inexpensive ones called “presentation” rings or just pick a nice, classy ring that she can wear for a while. Ask THE question. After the initial excitment is over, tell her that the setting is simply a stand-in. You want her to wear the ring in a solitaire until she is ready to decide on a setting.  After she feels ready, you want her to pick out her dream ering and wedding band. A lot of women would really really really prefer this approach. Win-Win.

For a solitaire, here are some really classy settings available from WF.

  • Legato Sleek Line
  • Vatch Royal Crown Classic
  • Danhov CL140 Classico
  • C-Prong Trellis
  • Fine-Line Solitaire

If your gal has a vintage flair (vs. contemporary/current) do have a look over at JewelsbyGrace. There are some amazing old-cut stones like UK-Bees that make a lot of our hearts go pitter-pat vs. modern diamonds. Grace also has a lot of settings that are great .




Post # 34
64 posts
Worker bee

If you can afford it, get her a 2 carat. I have a size 3 finger and a 1.8 carat oval (faces up large) with a decent sized halo. You will both get used to the size in no time. It is not that big. 

Post # 35
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Size 4 double halo (ring is currently a 4 1/2 )1.08 round brilliant center ,I think anything over 2ct center would be really huge .. But hey your from NYC !!



Post # 36
422 posts
Helper bee

I just want to chime in and say congratulations on ring shopping! This site is a great place! I too have a 4.5 size finger—My old center diamond was a 3.5 carat! I had picked out the setting and my Fiance picked out the diamond…my setting had a thick halo and with my 3.5 center it felt wayyy too big on my hand. So I say if your going to halo then don’t go over 2 carats. I will post a couple pics of it… I did manage to catch the halo on my table and it bent my ring… so bear that in mind! 

Post # 37
869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

nyguy :  That whiteflash ring is amazing, but very specific taste wise and will be hard to pair with a band.

My ring is from WhiteFlash and their customer service is amazing. Give them a call and let them know what you are thinking. They sent my Fiance all sorts of pictures of different settings and diamond sizes on different fingers so he could get an idea of what it would look like.

Post # 38
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

nyguy :  I think it’s so sweet that you are going to all this trouble to get the perfect ring for your GF! I could go on and on about diamonds and ring settings but you’ve already gotten lots of helpful feedback from the other bees here. Just wanted to say that I know lots of people who helped with the designing of their ring and then just stayed out of it while the ring was being made so they didn’t know when it was done. It’s still a surprise but she gets the ring she wants. I also think your catalogue idea is a good one and that could work too but it could also help to ask her what she actually wants in this process. Some women love to help design the ring and be involved and some truly want a surprise and will love whatever their guy gets them. Everyone is different so just do what she wants and I promise it’ll still be special! Congrats!

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