(Closed) MALE Bridesmaid

posted 6 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you may have to get used to the idea of him not holding anything. There just doesn’t seem to be anything practical for him to carry down the aisle. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hmm…would it be too feminine to have him carry a candle? That’s all I can think of. Otherwise, I think it would look fine if he didn’t carry anything.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Have him carry a shotgun. 😉

Just kidding! Um, I don’t know what he could carry that would be appropriate/wedding-y and not look a little effeminate. I would probably just have him carry nothing. The groomsmen don’t really carry anything, right? So why would the brideman?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance was a Bridesman for his sister.  He looked just fine walking down the aisle holding nothing 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee

You could have him carry a Bible or a book of poetry and have him read a passage or give book to Priest who will read a passage from the book.  If that doesn’t wow you, during the ceremony, you could have him bring a small vase of flowers to place before the Virgin Mary (talk to your Priest about this – they could set up the statue near the podium or a visual place as it is a nice gesture).

Otherwise, it is perfectly acceptable that he walk down the aisle and just have a flower on his lapel.  

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@LaTortuga:  I really don’t think it’s necessary to have him hold/carry anything. The majority of your guests would probably think it’s a little “different” to have a man hold flowers.  If he HAS to hold something, do you think a lantern with a candle inside would work?  He could bring it up to a table and set it there for the ceremony. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

a walking stick, use your flowers and ribbon to decorate it. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would say nothing. I’ve seen Bridesmen, and they didn’t carry anything, I think it would be a little weird if they did…

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

Nothing.  I would think it’s strange if a bridesman was holding flowers, candles, etc. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First, I’ve seen this done and he was called an Honor Attendant.  (FI made my best friend one of his groomsmen, but they’ve become close, too!)  I don’t think he needs to carry anything!  The time I’ve seen this, he wore a tux matching the groomsmen and just stood with the maids.  It’s totally do-able, but I wouldn’t make it more uncomfortable than it may already be by having him carry something. 

ETA:  For the record, my gay friends don’t typically carry flowers.  Don’t think that’s the right term to describe it ;o)

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think he needs to hold anything.

My husband had his sister and best female friend on his side and they dressed like the bridesmaids and just stood with him. They did carry flowers. Could your friend just wear a bout. like the GM?

ETA: Oops, just read that you found a solution with the cane.

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