Post # 1
Ok so this isn’t going to be as dramatic as one would think from the title but it still pissed me off. I was at a male coworkers’ desk explaining what needed to be done on a project and the computer program was acting strange and he wasn’t able to find what we were looking for so I said “can you let me take a look with this?” while motioning to his mouse and he moved his hand to let me grab the mouse and I took it and started searching the program then he started slapping my other hand and wrist (with a little force to make it sting in the way a mother slaps a toddlers’ hand). I had no idea why the fuck he was doing this and after I said “oh ok, you’re funny you can stop now” he kept doing it about 10 more times. This guy is in his 40s and sometimes does stupid shit like stick his tongue out at me and my coworker when he walks by then smiles and waves but since when is it fucking acceptable to hit your coworker? We are both paralegals in a law firm and this behavior just seems outrageously stupid. No surprise he is single but what a freak! What do you think?
Post # 3
I would slap his face, hard. Just as a reflexive reaction.
Post # 4
WHAT?! This is completely unaccaptable! And I find it a bit weird that he would stick his tounge out and then wave at you while walking by…I have a few co-workers that I act silly with, but they are my FRIENDS. This guy does not sound like a friend.
Post # 5
@mseagles: Uh… Both the slapping and sticking-out-tongue just seem… WEIRD. Is he developmentally disabled by any chance? I don’t mean intellectally disabled, but more along the lines of being socially disabled as I would think that he wouldn’t be able to work as a paralegal otherwise.
Post # 6
@MrsNewDay: as I was typing that post I realized that it definitely sounded like he was but I have worked with him for 2 years and didn’t get that impression. It’s just incredibly strange behavior for the situation. It reminds me of the stupid things that my brother did to me when he was 13.
Post # 7
he sounds VERY immature to me. he probably thought it was funny so he kept doing so, either way, it’s innapropriate…especially at work
Post # 8
Someone never grew up!
If someone did that to me, I’d yank my hand away and snap at him
Post # 9
@mseagles: It sounds to me like he’s very socially awkward and inept. While his behavior is unacceptable, I don’t think everything needs to be a major drama. I think you should be more frank with him as in, “Co-worker, slapping my hand is not acceptable. Stop now and don’t do it ever again.”
Then I’d quietly document the incident in my own files just in case his behavior ever does become a real problem.
Post # 10
Honestly, I would tell your HR department what happened right away. Whether or not he has some kind of disability is irrelevant. If he cannot act in an appropriate way in a professional environment, he needs to find other employment. HR needs to be aware of his actions so it can be properly documented. Once the line of physical contact gets crossed, and it continued after you requested that he stop, it needs to be reported.
Post # 11
Since you are not friends with this guy, and because you work in a professional environment, I say this is not acceptable.
I however, have stuck my tongue out at a few coworkers when they were teasing me. But my environment is extremely unprofessional, and these coworkers are my friends, so it’s cool. I would never slap a coworker’s hand, however, unless they were like, going to touch something covered in acid, or something like that!!!
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@Zhabeego: +1, sounds like the guy is just trying to be friendly/playful despite being socially awkward and not very good at being friendly/playful. No need to blow up!
Post # 14
Sounds to me like he may be flirting with you. Ew not cool.
Go speak to your HR rep about it, it may be awkward but it’s better than accepting this kind of thing at work.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t go to HR unless you’ve already taken steps to work it out with him directly. Your reaction may not have been as clear as it could have been (i.e. moving so that he was unable to continue, telling him very seriously that his behaviour isn’t appropriate, and walking away from the situation). If you feel like you’ve made it clear to him that sticking out his tongue and slapping your hand, etc., aren’t appropriate work behaviours, then go to HR.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t go to HR, but I definitely wouldn’t sit down at his desk like that again. It drives me NUTS when people sit at my desk to show me something.