(Closed) Male coworker slapped me!

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would slap his face, hard. Just as a reflexive reaction. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

WHAT?!  This is completely unaccaptable!  And I find it a bit weird that he would stick his tounge out and then wave at you while walking by…I have a few co-workers that I act silly with, but they are my FRIENDS.  This guy does not sound like a friend.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@mseagles:  Uh… Both the slapping and sticking-out-tongue just seem… WEIRD. Is he developmentally disabled by any chance? I don’t mean intellectally disabled, but more along the lines of being socially disabled as I would think that he wouldn’t be able to work as a paralegal otherwise. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

he sounds VERY immature to me. he probably thought it was funny so he kept doing so, either way, it’s innapropriate…especially at work

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Someone never grew up!

If someone did that to me, I’d yank my hand away and snap at him

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mseagles:  It sounds to me like he’s very socially awkward and inept.  While his behavior is unacceptable, I don’t think everything needs to be a major drama. I think you should be more frank with him as in, “Co-worker, slapping my hand is not acceptable.  Stop now and don’t do it ever again.”

Then I’d quietly document the incident in my own files just in case his behavior ever does become a real problem. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Honestly, I would tell your HR department what happened right away.  Whether or not he has some kind of disability is irrelevant.  If he cannot act in an appropriate way in a professional environment, he needs to find other employment.  HR needs to be aware of his actions so it can be properly documented.  Once the line of physical contact gets crossed, and it continued after you requested that he stop, it needs to be reported. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Since you are not friends with this guy, and because you work in a professional environment, I say this is not acceptable. 

I however, have stuck my tongue out at a few coworkers when they were teasing me.  But my environment is extremely unprofessional, and these coworkers are my friends, so it’s cool.  I would never slap a coworker’s hand, however, unless they were like, going to touch something covered in acid, or something like that!!!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

@Zhabeego:  +1, sounds like the guy is just trying to be friendly/playful despite being socially awkward and not very good at being friendly/playful.  No need to blow up!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Sounds to me like he may be flirting with you. Ew not cool.

Go speak to your HR rep about it, it may be awkward but it’s better than accepting this kind of thing at work.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wouldn’t go to HR unless you’ve already taken steps to work it out with him directly. Your reaction may not have been as clear as it could have been (i.e. moving so that he was unable to continue, telling him very seriously that his behaviour isn’t appropriate, and walking away from the situation). If you feel like you’ve made it clear to him that sticking out his tongue and slapping your hand, etc., aren’t appropriate work behaviours, then go to HR.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t go to HR, but I definitely wouldn’t sit down at his desk like that again.  It drives me NUTS when people sit at my desk to show me something.

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