Post # 1
Hi bees! Fiance asked me to post this:
He told me he was thinking of wearing a “male” engagement ring to show his commitment to me since I am wearing one to show my commitment to him. He wants Just a simple silver ring… Nothing too crazy. He was concerned this would be “odd” since he doesn’t know anyone who has done it. I think it’s incredibly sweet!
What do you think? Would your/does your Fiance do this?
Post # 3
Mine didn’t, but I had a dream once that he did lol. One of my ex’s wore a man-gagement ring. I thought it was very sweet and don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. When people asked him if he was married, he’d say “Not yet.” Turned out to be a jerk in the end, but I still think the idea is reallly cute.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2013 - Piney River Ranch
I don’t see the point. It’s just confusing, as people will think it’s his wedding band.
Post # 5
I think it’s fine if a man gets one, but it shouldn’t look like a traditional wedding band. Maybe some little diamonds, or a pattern, or have it multicolored to help it stand apart from his eventual wedding band.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Mr. LK chose a gold claddagh ring as his engagement ring, and loved wearing it every day as a symbol of his commitment to us. If he wants an engagement ring, why not? Here he is wearing it in one of our e-photos.
Post # 7
Thanks for posting this!! We were in Jared getting my ring clean.. While it was getting cleaned we were looking at diamond studs.. Then Fiance wandered off to men’s rings and I followed.. He decided since I have a ring he should get one too! So he picked out a gorgeous black tungsten carbide ring from there triton collection. It’s awesome! I love seeing it on his hand and find it soooooooooo sweet he wants to show the world he is taken! 🙂
I say go for it mister!!
Post # 8
My fiance and I are both wearing engagement rings. I refused to accept an engagement ring unless both of us are wearing one. The tradition of only the woman wearing it is parocial and outdated and stems from the men symbolically putting a “deposit” on his fiance, while theoretically still able to revoke the wedding should he choose a more appealing bride. Because of it’s origins, it only the woman who wears it. It’s a symbol of her devotion to him but not of his to her.
I applaud your fiance for being so openminded about it and I would undoubtedly support his decision to wear an engagement ring. It’s quite romantic actually!
Post # 9
My SO said he wanted a ring to wear but I tell him he gets the wedding band .. I do kinda think it will cause confusion but I dunno i may surprise him with a tungsten one if he brings it up again just to make him happy but I think it’s because we already Baught our wedding bands and he doesn’t want to wait haha
Post # 10
There are many threads within Weddingbee about the topic (i definitely did some searching about it), and most ladies say their men are proud to wear one, and don’t mind clarifying that it’s an engagement ring. My Fiance decided he would like one after I brought up the idea 🙂
I think both parties should be able to publically show a greater degree of commitment once they’re engaged. In my relationship, living together and planning everything around each other’s wants and needs, it seems less fitting that he wouldn’t show his committment with a ring than the other way around.
Post # 12
Does it become the woman’s responsibility to buy the man’s engagement ring? I haven’t thought about this before, and it would make sense for both parties to spend the money. But I don’t know if that’s how it’s done. And does the man’s ring have to have the same financial value as the woman’s ring?
Post # 13
Thanks everyone for your comments. He definitely wants a ring now but is taking your advice to get one that doesn’t look like a wedding ring! He’s excited to go pick one out… Cute 🙂
Post # 14
@Kat_kit2000 : I don’t think it needs to be the same monetary value, especially if he plans not to wear it after the wedding. I’m going to buy one for Fiance, but agree it could be shared expense, or just put into the wedding budget.
Post # 15
@Kat_Kit2000: I was wondering about that too. My fiance and I chose our engagement rings together and he offered to pay for them because he’s earning significantly more money than I am. But in a situation where both people are earning more or less equal salaries, what would happen?
Also, when we chose out our rings, we decided that we’d both have a white gold engagement ring (mine with a diamonds) his just a band, and then we’d both have a plain thin black tungsten carbide band as our wedding ring, to signify the strength and the endurance of our relationship.
Post # 16
My Darling Husband wore a ring. His best friend also wore a ring when he and his wife got engaged. It’s becoming more common these days and I say go for it!