Post # 1
My best friend is getting married next Saturday. The ceremony is outside, in a field (read: little/no shade) and the reception is also outside (under a tent). We live in the South, where it is quite hot (90s +) with a lot of humidity (90% +). I’m Maid/Matron of Honor so my dress is taken care of, but my Boyfriend or Best Friend is being a bit stubborn about what to wear.
I asked him the other day what he was going to wear to the wedding and he said, “I dunno…what should I wear?” (typical man). I started off, “those new pants yo-” and he cut me off “pants?! I’m wearing shorts.” Insert my best are you EFFING kidding me look here. This is a mid 20’s respectable guy who dresses fairly decently on a day-to-day basis, so he has to know shorts is not an option…right?! Apparently not. I guess in his defense, he’s a scientist and they are very “relaxed” in their attire. He went to a conference and made a big speech (his first ever) the other week and packed nothing but jeans and shorts for it, so I suppose formality is lost on his “type”.
But he’s not wearing shorts, not as my guest .
My question to you Bees is what IS appropriate for this type of wedding? The groomsmen will be in button ups and vests, but no jackets. His new pants are a grey slack and I figured I’d let him get away with wearing a polo, but is that still too casual?
The bride is too stressed (very understandable) with last minute wedding stuff to be of much help. I asked her what she expected guys to show up in and she said, “well not tuxes I guess…” I held back my “well DUH even your groom isn’t wearing one” (I can think that, because she’s my best friend see) and came to you girls for advice instead.
Post # 3
@carolinabelle: A pair of khakis or the grey pants and the polo shirt should be appropriate for the ceremony. He might get away with changing into the shorts during the reception, but it depends on how low-key the wedding day is. Honestly, I’d say he should suck it up and wear the pants for a few hours for the wedding and reception.
Post # 4
just from the title, I thought “why Seersucker, of course!” then I read the rest and realized that unless you’re a trained dentist, you likely don’t have the experience at pulling that many teeth.
Slacks and a polo with loafers should do it. Khakis in their normal tan color just come off extremely casual to me, so I’d go with grey or a darker brown (if not black). The reason I said polo rather than button-up is that if it’s that hot, he may try to wear a short-sleeved button up and I have yet to see that look non-dorky on a man. I could also get behind a long-sleeve button-collar dress shirt (especially striped) with the sleeves rolled up. But that seems hotter than a polo and may show sweat stains depending on the color.
Post # 5
My eyes rolled at the very idea of shorts, it has to be said. Now I realise that we can get kind of stuffy about clothes in England – helped by the fact that it is almost never that hot! – but I still think that light pants and a proper shirt (not a polo) would look nicest. No need for a tie or even a very formal shirt. Agree that short-sleeved button up shirts do look dorky though. So instead, rolled up sleeves on a really lightweight shirt!
Post # 6
My dude is a scientist, too, but extremely interested in what he wears. He would wear a linen suit or a seersucker suit to such a wedding. Yes, even in the sun.
In your situation I would insist on nice slacks, khakis at worst, with a button-down front shirt. I find a polo to be far too casual for a wedding. God forbid shorts.
Post # 7
If it’s pretty low key a pair of khakis and a polo should be fine. If it’s a little more than casual, I would suggest the gray pants and a polo.
Post # 8
slacks or khakis and a polo.
Post # 9
You’ve got to love these outdoor summer weddings in the South…No one up North has an outdoor wedding in January:)
He is probably fine with dressier khakis and a long-sleeve button down shirt. If it’s going to be short-sleeve, then it needs to be a very good quality–think Tommy Bahama or similar.
Once I almost made Darling Husband wear a suit and tie to a wedding where he insisted khakis were fine. The only men not wearing jeans were the groom, the fathers, the grandpas and my husband
Post # 10
Its in a field in the south in dead summer. The bride must know anyone with a brain wont be in a full suit unless they want heat stroke. Khakis and a polo should be fine. Even real weigth slacks would be utterly miserable. And long sleeves?? Obviously someone has never been outside in 90% humidity.
Post # 11
Being a Southern girl, I absolutely understand where you’re coming from. The fact that she said “not tuxes” tells me that she is expecting more dressy than casual.
I know it’s going to require pulling a few teeth, but I am of the opinion that if he is wearing gray slacks, he ought to wear a long sleeve button down. That said, I think it would be ok if he rolled the sleeves up on said button down.
A less dressy alternative could include khakis with a long sleeve oxford and (bow)tie. And a slightly more dressy alternative may include seersucker… but if your guy is as finicky as mine, seersucker is just wayyy out of the question 🙂
Post # 12
@carolinabelle: Seersucker!! Thats what it’s made for girl! It looks fancy and it breathes.
Most southern people I know just wear khakis. At casual weddings khaki shorts and loafers or boat shoes are okay. Add a seersucker bow tie and you’ve got yourself a real good ole boy lol!
Post # 13
It would be just fantastic if you could get him in some seersucker. I’m so lucky I don’t have that problem. Fiance LOVES (like, almost unhealthily LOVES) seersucker.
But I digress…Khakis, cotton button-up with the sleeves rolled, bow tie. Easy peasy.