(Closed) Male MOH… thoughts?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

Megbee617:  I went to a wedding this past weekend with a man of honour and he is also going to be my man of honour. People who know us are not surprised. It is more the distant relatives who are kind of surprised but it’s not a big deal. We are getting married in a Catholic church and our priest has no problem at all with it. My coworker was a Best Woman at her best friend’s wedding. It’s not a big deal – have your best friend stand up for you by your side.

Post # 3
718 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I love it. I think the Maid/Matron of Honor position is for whomever the bride wants it to be, male or female.

It makes me think of that Patrick Dempsy movie. 🙂 

Post # 4
984 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My best friend is a guy and I talked to him about it when I first got engaged. Unfortunately he told me that he’d honestly feel a little awkward bc he thinks ppl would assume he’s gay. (he’s very much straight).

So I’m hving him as an usher instead. I’m a little disappointed about it, bc I want him to stand up for me, but since he isn’t comfortable I didn’t want him to have to do it anyway.

Post # 5
2301 posts
Buzzing bee

my friend did this. It was a bit odd for some of the older folks.

Post # 6
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

Megbee617:  I think it’s awesome! My best friend (pretty much best friend from birth – 2 months apart – our dads and grandfathers were good friends) is a male and will be my GOH (Gentleman of Honor). He is so excited to be the person to stand next to me on my big day. I too will be his Best Woman on his wedding day. This was not a surprise to anyone, they only figured we’d choose one another for such an important role on an important day. Do what is right for you, and what you want your big day to look like. Best of Luck!

Post # 7
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

One of my male friends stood on my side. No one ever even mentioned it!

Post # 8
2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

Megbee617:  As long as you are sure he isn’t going to go all “Made of Honor” on you it should be fine! 

Post # 9
42 posts

I just went to a wedding where the bride had her male best friend stand up as her Maid/Matron of Honor. He is gay…and I’m not sure if that matters, but other posters above have mentioned. No one even mentioned it and actually many did not even notice because they were so focused on the couple. If he was straight, there may have been more raised eyebrows from the peanut gallery. However, I don’t think you should care at all either way and should just go for it! What does your fiance think about this guy?

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Post # 10
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I tossed around the idea of making my brother my Maid/Matron of Honor. I don’t have any close female friends and I am semi-estranged from my two half sisters. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a guy Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 11
1621 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My brother was my “man of honour”.  My best girlfriends still did all the girlie stuff like dress shop and help with showers.  I don’t think anyone thought it was weird, at least to my face LOL.

Post # 12
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My husband’s sister was his best man, and in a few weeks he’ll be her maid of honor. No one cared at our wedding; most people actually thought it was cute. So far, people seem to have the same reaction for SIL’s wedding coming up. 

Post # 13
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

Megbee617:  My cousin had a very traditional wedding and her brother was her man of honor. My brother is my man of honor as well. Looks adorable in photos, but I will take some with just the girls too I think. Screw what people think! 

Post # 14
581 posts
Busy bee


I have been to two weddings with a male Maid/Matron of Honor (or 2 MOHs)

In each case it was the bride’s brother(s).

Post # 15
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Cadillac mountain

I’m having my best friend stand with me. They identify as gender neutral and will be wearing slacks, a button up and a bow tie. I’m not tooo worries about what others will think. I feel like a man as a man of honor is becoming a normal thing

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