male ob/gyn

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 91
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

The practice I went to has 3 female doctors and 1 male, and I was always so shy to see the male doctor even though he was the owner and the most popular one there. He ended up being my fave doctor, he actually delivered my daughter and he was absolutely AMAZING. My husband really liked him too and said we should make sure he delivers our next one.. and that says a lot bc he wasn’t loving the idea of me having a male doctor at first. 

Post # 92
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253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

milwaukee33 :  I’ve only had female and would be uncomfortable with a male. That being said, that’s my own issue and of course male or female, they’re professionals. 

Post # 93
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

milwaukee33 :  My current gyno will be the one to deliver any of our future children and he’s awesome. I had a female gyno when I first started going and I didn’t care for her. She was impatient and brushed off many of my concerns. She also misdiagnosed me so for two years I had a pretty serious issue going on that she totally ignored. I finally worked up the nerve to go to a different doctor. He immediately identified my problem, scheduled me for surgery, and I was healed. The fact that he’s a “male” has never factored into my feelings one way or another. Competency should not be sacrificed for gender–ever. 

As far as comfortability goes, I’m pretty unabashed in that regard. I’m not shy and I don’t get embarrassed. Darling Husband also could not care less as long as they are helping me and competent. This is a doctor, not someone trying to grope a feel of me. We’ve met with him regarding some fertility issues and Darling Husband thinks he’s great. He won’t be able to see us through our fertility journey, but he will deliver our babies once they come. 

Post # 94
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

milwaukee33 :  

My wife only goes to women. I also wouldn’t be comfortable with it. It’s hard to explain, it’s just how I feel and I don’t need to apologize for how I naturally feel.

I guess I enjoy her nude so much that her revealing herself for me is an act of intimacy between us. I enjoy her nudity so much from her head down to her toes! Her willingly revealing herself for any other men would just cause pain. The exam is just too graphic and the intimate areas are so blatantly exposed that it would just be too gut wrenching. It’s kind of an intimacy line that would be crossed.

I’ve always thought that. From the first time I ever found out what a gynecologist was and what they did my first thought was, no woman would go to a man for that! I was quite surprised how many women do though. It’s like all normal modesty as far as being naked in front of the opposite sex goes out the window the moment “medical” is attached to it.

This was never really any issue. She always thought the idea of choosing a male to do that type of exam seemed icky and she just naturally migrated to ladies.

 

 

Post # 95
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

derville : I was quite surprised how many women do though. It’s like all normal modesty as far as being naked in front of the opposite sex goes out the window the moment “medical” is attached to it.

Are you for real?  Why on earth would modesty come into it when it’s a medical situation? 

Post # 96
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

zzar45 :  Because that’s how I feel. You seem to be under some false notion that I need to justify my natural, honest feelings to you. You do your feelings and I’ll do mine. How about that? wink

Post # 97
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

derville :  no offense but whenever or if ever you have a medical emergency you might not like knowing that most nurses in the ER are female…. and they typically always make you undress….. 

oh and a lot of ER doctors ive come across are males, so you might want your wife to avoid the ER….

 

like really??? smh… 

Post # 98
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Well, thanks for the heads up on all the hypotheticals and “what ifs” but since we are talking about 100% scheduled appointments that no one even has to schedule unless they feel like it and in which the person scheduling the visit is 100% in control of who they see I thought I’d just respond to the posed question.

So unless someone is in some major accident and is hurt and probably unconscious with a team of people working on you than they usually aren’t examined by anyone they don’t want, not for just routine care.

Some of you sound like you are really gung-ho about going to this type of doctor, as in you’ve done it 30 times. My wife follows this stuff and knows that really its only in the USA in which it is gospel that women start at like age 17 and go every single year or else you’ll just suddenly kick over dead. She’s read that really women should just get checked every 3-5 years.

She went once to get on birth control when we got married. She only took that one year. We now have two kids and I’ve since had a vasectomy. She goes to an all woman practic, they did the check ups during pregnancy and did the births. I think she’s been back one time. Like I said, just every 3-5 years.  

If it makes you feel better, when I go to the urologist, I go to a guy. I don’t go to a female urologist and wouldn’t unless some emergency forced me into that.

Post # 99
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

derville :  You have a bizarre posting history. 

Post # 100
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - Massachusetts

I used to have a male OB. He was awesome! At first I thought it was going to be weird, but then I realized he was like 60 something years old, went to Harvard and probably looked up a million woohoos sooo it didn’t matter. He ended up retiring though because his wife fell ill. I always thought he was more gentile than the females, but maybe that’s just me. Now a days you are lucky if you even see an actual MD. I always get a NP. Not that there is anything wrong with seeing an NP, I just like to have an opinion from and MD sometimes. 

Post # 101
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

“I really don’t see the relevancy of the husband question.”

I guess because some husbands believe that their wive’s genitals are their property and therefore they can dictate their healthcare. I have no idea. My gyno is a man and a lovely person. Never would it occur to me to run that by my boyfriend. That’s really funny. By the same token, my BF’s doctor is a woman and she has probably seen his penis. I should go after her, that slimy man-stealing bitch. She saw something sacred! Lol.

Post # 102
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356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I have a male, and he’s awesome!! My husband doesnt mine, why would he? 

Post # 103
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I thought I would be SOO uncomfortable and would never want a male doctor, but then I got pregnant and found out that at my normal gynecologist’s office, they do OB where you see all the doctors in the practice throughout your pregnancy, so that you’re comfortable with whoever ends up being on call when you’re in labor. There are 3 female and 2 male doctors in the practice. I thought it would be so awkward to see a male doctor, but it was actually no big deal at all, and one of the male doctors ended up being one of my favorites! Once I had actually seen a male doctor, I realized that the gender of the doctor was not what made the experience awkward or not awkward. It was more of a personality thing. If the doctor is warm and friendly, receptive and responsive to questions, and seems invested and knowledgeable, I like them. If not, I don’t. 

Post # 104
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

“I was quite surprised how many women do though. It’s like all normal modesty as far as being naked in front of the opposite sex goes out the window the moment “medical” is attached to it.”

You seem to believe that a woman’s body is made only for a man’s sexual pleasure. Your “natural feelings” are strange, sexist, and out-of-line. In almost every circumstance, your wife’s doctor choices are none of your business. I neither need anyone’s persmission nor do I need to be “modest” and embarrassed for getting medical care — from either sex.

Post # 105
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Sugar Beekeeper

A gyn is a medical professional, trained for years and years to do his or her job. Not to burst anyone’s bubble, but they do not see an exam as a sexual encounter. In order to protect themselves against slanderous accusations, there is usually a nurse present as well. You are given a gown to wear. Only the area being examined is exposed at one time. 

I know there are women who have a strong preference, but I only care about ability, training,and bedside manner. I would never be married to anyone who wouldn’t allow me to see the doctor of my choice. 

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