(Closed) Male Revue

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Carolyn72:  Anyone can be mad at anyone for any reason. It is a bit lame though. Even if he’d never been to one, you didnt cheat so it isnt a big deal. Perhaps yall should agree that in the future neither one of you can go to a strip club.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t see how a male strip club is different from a female strip club. Calling it a “revue” is just semantics. Being married and being engaged is the same thing – you’re promised to each other. You went and had a good time and looked at some dudes in thongs, your husband needs to get over it.

Post # 7
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7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

OK I’ve never been to a male revue so I’ll ask straight out: how much did they take off? Because at strip clubs I gather the girls get naked.

And did he ask you not to go? He was wrong to go when you asked him not to, but two wrongs don’t make a right. This was your chance to say, “Strip clubs are over in our relationship”. By going, you’re setting up the possibility of “tit for tat” reprisals.

I do agree with you though that married and engaged are the same in this case.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Carolyn72:  OK, so you saw about as much flesh as at the beach, except with goofy dancing. IMO that’s definitely different to a strip club.

That said, if he asked you not to go, I would have found something else to do. Deliberately going against your partner’s wishes is rarely a good idea.

Post # 10
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633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You didn’t want him to go, but he went, and you were mad.

He didn’t want you to go, but you went, and he’s mad.

Is this right? As much as I hate keeping score, it sounds like you’re even, and you both need to forget about it. It’s not about how elaborate each party was or how much nudity you saw…it’s about neither one of you respecting each other’s wishes.

Post # 11
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It sort of sounds like you did it to get back at him going to the strip club while you were engaged.  Did you tell him you were going beforehand?  Or did you wait until after, then say “Oh, Sally and I went to the male revue” and let him react?

Post # 12
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129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It seems like the bigger issue is that you couldn’t let his actions go and felt the need to go out and get even in some way.  If the forum says he’s wrong to be angry with you, does that mean you were wrong to be angry with him in the first place?

Post # 14
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think you’re both being hypocritical.

  • You didn’t like him going to a strip club, yet you went to one.

  • He went to a strip club but now has an issue with you going to one.

I think you both need to get over it. 

Also, I’d like to point out that many strip clubs do not let their dancers strip off everything. They are usually still covered “down there” (I live in Ontario and guys go to Quebec just because the strip clubs there are often all nude, rather than the more common half nude of regular strip clubs), so I don’t think your strip club was any “worse” or “better” than his strip club.

You’re more in the wrong though. You’re not just hypocritical, you’re vindictive.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@JFay:  

+1

You were both wrong to disrespect the other’s wishes. He is being a hypocrite, but so are you. You are/were both mad at each other for behaving a certain way, yet you both find no issue with this behaviour when you do it yourselves.

You must have known he’d be mad with you. He asked you not to go and you went anyway. When he did that, you were mad with him. I really think you both need to start respecting the boundaries set out for your relationship. I’d also explain to your Darling Husband that engaged or married makes no difference, it’s STILL disrespectful, but now you’re both ‘even’, so it’s a fresh start.

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