(Closed) Male’s role in abortions (Play nice now!)

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Post # 181
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Buzzing bee
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@teaadntoast: The man does not pay for the fetus.  He is not legally obligated to contribute to the financial needs of a fetus, embryo, zygote, etc. – What about if the woman decides to keep the baby?  Would she force the man to help pay for doctor visits, viatmins, etc. because she choose to keep it?  According to your theory, he would not have to pay until the baby comes out, right?

Post # 182
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Buzzing bee
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@chasesgirl: 

I’m glad you’re so confident in these blanket statements you’re making. Because, you know, no woman ever had a child she thought she could afford and then lost her job or faced insurmountable medical bills. And God forbid she then expected the father to help support the child HE CREATED. But I suppose if that happened to you, which it never would because you apparently have your entire life’s course figured out, you would just play Destiny’s Child “Independent Women” while your child went without necessities or didn’t receive medical care because you had a point to make about equality, goshdarnit, and you weren’t going to swallow your pride and ask the father to contribute something for THE CHILD. Not you, THE CHILD. And the child should just be allowed to go without because its care is not the point here at all, it’s just who wins the moral superiority argument, the mother or father, right?

Post # 183
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@chasesgirl:

I know many signle moms who don’t expect it and don’t think it is worth fighting for and let the man go scott free.

You’re thinking here that every man is bothered to pay, well now you can sleep with ease knowing that many have left their children and don’t have any part in their lives financial or emotional.  That should bring a smile to your face. Laughing

Post # 185
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Buzzing bee
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@chasesgirl: Ah.

The law you mention didn’t prevent this, this, this, this and this.  So, not so ridiculous.

I also note that in at least one case the father was involved in the decision to abandon the child.  I guess that’s okay, though?  

Post # 186
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Buzzing bee
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@ohheavenlyday:  I kind of love you right now.

*claps*

Post # 187
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Buzzing bee
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@Miss Lilac: I thought @chasesgirl made a good point.  What’s with the :facepalm:?

This whole thing is just getting out of hand.  Obviously no one sees, or wants to see any point of view accept women are the only ones allowed to f*ck up, make a mistake and fix it.  Men just have to SUCK IT UP.  And anyone who disagrees with this or even SEES the injustice in it is just :facepalm:, disgusting, failed, etc., etc., etc.  GOT IT!

The funny thing is I can see and understand everyone’s point of view and even opened my mind to things I hadn’t considered but my opinion continually gets shut down.  LOL!  I give!  WOMEN GO MAKE MISTAKES, THERE IS A WAY OUT FOR YOU!  MEN, DON’T HAVE SEX UNTIL YOU ARE READY TO GO WITH WHATEVER THE WOMAN DECIDES. CHECK! CHECK!

Post # 188
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Honey bee
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@VegasSukie:

He doesn’t have to pay until the child is born! Way to argue for something that is true!

Post # 189
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Buzzing bee
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@teaadntoast: We all know where babies come from.  He can keep his dick in his pants if he’s that concerned. – True.  Same could be said for HER though.  Then a poor clump of cells wouldn’t have to ba aborted in the first place.

Post # 190
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@VegasSukie: 

In societies all around the world, it would be impossible for the woman to have ANY say in this issue whatsoever. It would completely be the man’s decision, no matter what. And you want to call the fact that we live in a country where, thank God, that’s not the case for us as women an “injustice.” 

Post # 192
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@chasesgirl: 

I’m not trying to change your opinion. I’ll tell you what will change your opinion: when you have a child. And when that child needs something and you, with your instincts, realize that you would go out on the streets and grovel to strangers to get that child medicine, food, heat, whatever you had to get them for them to be safe, happy, ALIVE. Sticking to your word and honoring your statements and your choices is all fine and dandy, but when it comes down to protecting and sustaining your child, if you had to do it, the least bothersome thing in the world to you would be calling the father and asking for money to make sure it happened. And you would gladly say, “To hell with what I said, MY CHILD NEEDS THIS.”

Post # 193
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@chasesgirl:

Make up your mind already!

Post # 194
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think it is fair to make assumptions about what anyone would do in any given situation. All of us Bees are different, and there is proof (usually from people that we know) that many women and men have all handled this similar situation differently. It is always going to be a really touchy subject, and depending on the man or woman’s situation, they are going to feel strongly one way or another about one side of the issue. What is important, no matter how broken people think the system is, is that the children in all situations are placed in a safe and loving environment.

Post # 195
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Honey bee
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@VegasSukie:

I think you need to rethink your views on abortion since everything you say seems to have a pro life spin on it, poor clump of cells?  Who says that a pro lifer or choicer?

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