Post # 1
Darling Husband and I are discussing birth photography. My cousin had this done and her pictures of those first emotional moments with her baby are sooo precious! They captured her Darling Husband tearing up and so many amazing moments. My Darling Husband and I TTC for nearly 3 difficult years and ended up conceiving after our 2nd round of IVF (currently 24 weeks). The more I think about it the more I would like that precious moment when we finally meet our sweet long-awaited baby girl to be captured. However, the quotes I see are like $800-$1000. I’m not sure this is a wise financial decision since we will obviously be incurring a lot of costs with a new baby (and have already spent a ton on just trying to concieve her).
Mama bees, did you decide to do birth photography? Did you decide not to do it? Do you regret it either way? How much did it cost? Did it take away from the intimacy of the moment?
Post # 2
I feel about birth pics the same way as I feel about those trashy Boudoir pics. Who would want to see them except the 2 involved? Take pics right after the birth. Do you want the world seeing your hoohaw? Not me. Nothing is private anymore. Heaven only knows who could get at them. Do you want your child seing them years later?
Post # 3
merrymargaret : we would not post them publicly. They would be just for Darling Husband and I to keep as a memory, and maybe a few prints for the baby book. And a lot of them are tasteful and don’t show the baby actually coming out. It’s more he moments of meeting the baby right after birth.
Post # 4
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I feel that this is one of those experiences to be kept as a private memory. It seems less special & sort of staged to me. It’s definitely not my cup of tea, especially at nearly $1,000!
Post # 5
I love birth photography. I’m not a mom yet so I’m obviously not speaking from experience but I think they are amazing. I’ve never seen any of the actual birth – at most cutting the cord and certainly nobody’s private parts. But I’m also obsessed with photography, I like to take pictures of everything! I think it’s something we will absolutly try to budget for when we have a kid.
Post # 6
hollyberry4 : The reason birth photography is so expensive is because they are literally blocking out like 3 weeks for each birth, considering a mom can go early or late. While many will still take on some other sessions, it’s a much lighter load (thus less income) because they need to flexible should mom go into labor. Additionally, unlike portrait sessions or weddings (where it’s a set number of hours) they stay there for the duration….often for insane lengths of times.
I’m a wedding photographer, not a birth photographer, so obviously I put a high value on professional photography…but I think it’s worth it. That being said other people are perfectly happy taking their own photos. I can relate to your struggle with TTC, and for me it would be worth it because I would want Darling Husband to be fully in the moment and let someone else focus on taking photos.
DIY photos are fine, and certainly document the moment, but will not have the same look or quality as those of a professional. I’ve seen A LOT of birth photography over the years, and when done by someone experienced it’s absolutely breath-taking and emotional. I’ll just say that a couple months ago I went to visit my SIL the week after her Dear Daughter was born. She opted to let a nurse take photos with her DSLR and she showed them to me. They look horrible. There is nothing flattering or beautiful about them.
Everyone is entitled to the their own opinion, but the previous poster’s reply is honestly incredibly ignorant. People don’t hire birth photographers to have amazing photos for facebook – they do it to have amazing photo memories of their child. Who would want to see them but the two involved? No one!! That’s why they are FOR THE TWO INVOLVED. Sure plenty of people post some of their photos on social media, and that’s fine for them. I most definitely wouldn’t but it wouldn’t make the photos any less important to me.
Post # 7
I’m just about to give birth to #2. I didn’t do any professional photos of my first until baby was 1. I don’t regret it at all. One of the nurses took our nice camera and snapped photos of the three of us when I finally got to meet LO. (I had an emergency c section, so Darling Husband spent a little one on one time with LO while they finished the surgery.) I had thought about doing newborn photos but I couldn’t justify the cost. In all honesty, I’ve taken plenty of photos of my first that I don’t feel bad aboUT it. (After my hormones calmed down shortly after birth.) We are not having professional photos taken this time either. While I have seen some sweet photos, I’d rather that money go towards something else.
Post # 8
starfish0116 : thank you for your response! I was pretty taken aback by the first comment as well! Of course no one else would really want to see them but Darling Husband and I…! And I totally understand why they cost so much. I can’t imagine having to be on call for the birth and not know when it will happen, time of day, or how long it will take! A huge job for sure. I really want to do it and am hoping I can convince Darling Husband that the expense is “worth it.” I really want that special moment captured. Staged photos after the birth just won’t capture the same emotion I think. 🙂
Post # 9
Have the experience and keep the special memory that is not staged in any way. By all means take a few photos of the lovely new family when your child is born. Do you really want the added pressure of a photographer on top of having a baby? Do you want a stranger in the room when you are giving birth and when you are having your first moments as a family together? I think there are definitely better ways to spend $1000 as well.
I honestly don’t understand why anyone would want this, but obviously it’s your choice.
Post # 10
hollyberry4 : One way that you might be able to justify the cost is to find a photographer who offers a package. Many will do a 3 session package – maternity, birth, & newborn photos – and pretty much all of them do payment plans because they understand it’s a large amount of money.
Post # 11
I wish this would have been available when I had my children. I would have loved having these very special photos. I’ve seen some amazing ones shared by photographers on facebook. They are all very tastefully done and are very precious photos of a very special moment.
If you can swing the cost, I would do it.
Post # 12
I love birth photography but no, I wouldn’t pay that much to get it done. For my first my sister was in the room and took a few photos. She will do the same this time around. Just throw a filter on some of them and voila! Jk but really, as beautiful as some are I wouldn’t pay that much.
Post # 13
No. No way in hell would I want to deal with a random photographer while I was giving birth. Nor would I want these pictures to be staged and professional. A nurse can take all the pictures you want. I had a c-section and the anesthesiologist grabbed my DH’s phone and took a bunch of videos and pics of my DS being born and us meeting him. They are not “professional,” but they are raw and real and awesome.
Post # 14
I know you asked for opinions but I think people are being a bit harsh.
I think photographers are great for big occasions! Graduation, engagement, weddings, so why not birth? It’s another huge event in your life, and unless you’re trying to single handedly repopulate the earth it won’t happen TOO many times. If that’s a huge moment for you that you would like to have captured on film, then do it! All photography is expensive (justifiably so- I think it’s a talent and an art form for many professionals), so really that should be the only question you’re asking yourself when deciding: Do I want this badly enough to justify the cost? If yes, do it!
I think some of the other reasons people are giving for not doing it are kind of silly. Having a stranger look at your vagina- honestly if you don’t want people you don’t know looking at your vagina then don’t plan to have birth in a medical setting. Or, try to make friends with the entire nursing staff in the months leading up to your birth. I guarantee that a professional photographer who offers this service has seen it many times before, just like your doctor has delivered babies many times before. They’re not going home with thoughts of how your vagina looked. Also, yes it’s a very special moment for you and your FH, so is getting engaged, so is getting married. Should those be only saved for “private mental memories” as well? Should pictures only be taken with the intent to share them with the world? Or is it okay to pay a bit for a special image that you can look at to help bring you back to the special memories of the day you got to meet your baby for the first time? Also, I don’t think it would be staged any more than your husbands first look at you walking down the aisle. The photographers job is to remain hidden/out of the way while trying to capture what is happening. They really only ever intervene for the posed “family” or group photos, or for a fussy baby or if you’re getting a portrait/head shots done. It would be like the photographer taking a photo of someone catching a football in the endzone- can’t really stage that. You also can’t really stage your baby coming out of you- that actually happened, hah, whether the photographer told you to wait or not. The photographer will probably take many photos without saying a word to capture the moment without interruption. They MAY ask you if you’d like to pose/smile for one, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it, if that seems too “staged”. Having a professional just gaurantees that you will get photos that are very sharp, in great focus, taken at the right exposure, with the right settings that makes it look like you’re right there in the room when you’re looking at it. If you’re fine with chancing having grainy out of focus pictures of this monumentous occasion that’s fine. I wouldn’t say a blurry photo is better than a well taken one though because it is “raw”.
Post # 15
I’m confused why people think the photos are staged? Why do you think the photos a nurse would take are any more “in the moment” than a birth photographer? I can assure you, an experienced birth photographer is unobtrusive and capturing the moments as they happen, not asking you to pause for a smile. The photos after birth of parents smiling with their baby are no more staged if a pro takes it vs the nurse taking it.
Everyone has their own comfort level, and I completely understand some might feel uncomfortable having someone like that in the room…and that’s completely ok. But for someone considering it, obviously their level of modesty or comfort is likely different than someone who says “no absolutely not would I even consider it”. I don’t see a birth photographer as any more random than the rotating nurses on call. If anything you would know your birth photographer better because you would have had a chance to meet.
There seems to be some confusion about birth photography…because I keep people refering to them as “some random photographer”. Birth photographers are very particular about their services, and I can’t imagine a situation where they are rolling up into the hospital having not met the parents beofre. Most people use the same photographer for maternity and newborn photos, so there is a relationship already there.