Mama bees… birth photography?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I feel that if you even have an inkling about wanting to do this, you should absolutely do it. Better to have the photos than wish you had them.

I had a student nurse take graphic photos when I told her to just take pictures of the non-graphic stuff…LOL. She said she just got carried away (it was her first birth experience) but it’s actually pretty awesome. I will obviously never share these photos with anyone unless someone was truly interested and I was comfortable with them seeing all that. 

I don’t think having a photographer will take away from your experience at all…absolutely nothing could interrupt my delivery, and I was in labor for 30 hours, pushing for 2.5. I lost my shit for 2 minutes when I found out my SIL had posted on Facebook that I was in labor, but even with my phone ringing off the hook, I couldn’t focus on that if I wanted to. The birth of your baby is an all-consuming experience. 

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

OP– don’t listen to the naysayers. If you want to do it, then do it. There’s absolutely no reason why you should feel bad about documenting this, especially given your journey. I find it insanely funny that most people on here are totes ok with spending thousands on a WEDDING photographer (that could very well end up trashed one day after roughly half get divorced– no shame, I’m one of them) but think it’s crazy to get a BIRTH photographer for their own childs entrance into the world. 

Also, where did she say she was posting these? Why does she have to display them, did she ever say she was going to erect a shrine to her vagina in her living room? Yeah… didn’t think so!

I say do it… enjoy the photos!

Post # 33
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Busy bee

I’m still early along but I’m definitely thinking about birth photos as well. It’s really interesting to see how many posters are harshly against it. Photos like the one below are hard to get from someone helping out. (Just to be fair though it was pulled off of Huff Post’s top birth photos for 2016). Photographers have 10 seconds or less to capture that first moment – to me, this photo is worth way more (and is 10x more beautiful) than photos of a pregnant woman in a flowly dress half covering her bump in a field of flowers.  Then again, I love raw emotion photos and less posed ones. 

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Post # 35
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Honey bee

hollyberry4 :  I only skimmed some of these comments, because they’re too ridiculous to give my full attention to. I actually have a child and one of my favorite pictures of all time is my husband in the OR (c section birth) holding our son for the first time. The expressions on the two of them staring at each other is so beautiful, and I’m so happy the nurse grabbed our camera and took it. Having a nice family picture in the hospital in those first days that are a total blur is really great. I was hoping the hospital had a photographer on staff, but that seems to be something a lot of hospitals are doing away with which is too bad. Are the quotes you are getting for during the birth and immediately after or are they more for family and baby sessions once the baby is born? If it’s the former, you may find cheaper options for doing a short hospital session after the birth. I also recently found a couple of videos my husband took before and after my son was born (just us talking and the baby sleeping) and they are fun memories for us to keep. Why everyone thinks you’re talking about crotch shots and the baby crowning is beyond me. 

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

No, I wouldn’t want someone else in the room while I’m giving birth. I already told Darling Husband no video lol.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I love photos but did not do a birth photographer.  I did bring a nice camera and tell my husband to take photos with it right after our daughter was born.  If I have another child, I will also not hire a photography, but I don’t think it is a terrible idea or anything.  I just wanted as few people around as possible during labor.  I just had my husband and the medical staff.  I think my mom and Mother-In-Law would have freaked out if I allowed a photographer in with us but not them.  Although, when it got close to delivery time, I have to say I don’t think I would have even noticed who was there and wasn’t.  My husband took a picture of our daughter on the scale being weighed soon after birth, and also of her lying on my chest still all wet from birth while my eyes were closed.  These are some of my most treasured photos.  Having a baby is a very emotional thing, and I feel like photos keep you connected to those emotions.  So I guess, if you want the photographer, you should do it.  Everyone is different.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

As an RN I would way rather you hire a photographer than ask me to take pics, just saying…

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

I’m kind of amazed at the number of people that recommended asking the nurse to take pictures. That is not their job!  And what if they are needed at that time to take care of you?!?  After I had my son, my bleeding would not stop.  I had nurses jabbing shots in the side of my legs to give me something to get it to stop.  If they had had my camera and had been taking pictures of my son that had just been born, they wouldn’t have been able to focus on what they needed to be doing.

My husband always forgets to pick up the camera, so I wasn’t able to depend on him to get good ones in the delivery room.

I have very few photos from the day my kids were born.  I wish I would have had a birth photographer.  

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

hollyberry4 :  Yikes! Some of these responses are absolutely ridiculous. As someone who is currently battling infertility, I will absolutely have a photographer document the birth of my first child. It literally should go without question that the intent is NOTTTTTT to have my “whoo ha” on display or to post those pictures on Facebook. Like…? Seriously people, that has to be explained by someone? Lord Almighty. 

Having those photos is obviously about documenting the very first moment that I see my child. A moment that I will never experience again, nor will my husband, nor will whoever else we choose to be in the room with us. I don’t want my husband having to snap photos and want him to be present with me. I don’t want a nurse to snap a picture on my phone fifteen minutes later. I want those photos of my child entering the world, of my face when I see him/her for the first time. When my husband does. I’ve seen incredibly tasteful photos of births. It’s not all up close and personal with vagina ala National Geographic. 

Also, lol’ing at everyone saying they don’t want a “random photographer” in there, as if they wouldn’t meet and hire them prior to the birth. As if they wouldn’t be someone trusted to perform this very special task for you. For reference, my wedding photographer will be the one to take photos at my birth. We have a leftover photo shoot and she suggested we use it for maternity or birth and Darling Husband and I agreed, so we drafted a new contract with her where three extra shoots were included: maternity, birth, and first birthday. 

OP, my vote is go for it. I think you’d regret not having them than having them. 

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

merrymargaret :  Did you seriously just compare birth photography to a boudoir shoot???

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

Wow, I’m really surprised at some of these responses! 

That said, the birth photography I’ve seen has been incredibly beautiful and really capture a special moment. 

a good friend of mine has a photography business with her husband and she has started her own offshoot of birth photography; her photos are amazing! I recommend checking out #InstaBirthStory on Instagram to see a sample of her images (which, OF COURSE, the family knew were posted). 

If and when we’re lucky enough to carry a baby to term, I really think I will want all those special moments preserved.  

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

MrsMeowton :  Also, who says boudoir had to be trashy?! So much judgement! 🙄

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would not have wanted some random

photographer taking photos while I was in labour. Plus my waters went while pushing and there was a lot of blood – happy there are no photos of that. 

Hubby got some nice photos of us all after and that will do me

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Nope..giving birth was absolutely horrible and painful and traumatic and also MY moment to share with my husband, not a random photographer. I’d say no even if a professional offered to do it for free. It was just an incredibly personal process and transformation, with a wonderful ending, and nobody could document it as well as my memories did. It’s in my head, not on paper.. Honestly to me it feels like calling in a photographer to document the first time you have sex. 

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