Mama bees… birth photography?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

PaperQueen :  Sorry, I should have clarified that I did NOT ask the student nurse to take photos…she offered, and she wasn’t actually doing anything else besides watching. I would not recommend anyone ask their nurse to do this. 

hollyberry4 :  If I had known I would be okay with photos during the delivery, I would have hired a photographer, or had a friend take photos. My cell phone pics were not even close to professional but they are still awesome. 

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

hollyberry4 :  You’re getting a lot of strange comparisons here. I think capturing the final moments of birth is a beautiful thing and some Bees have posted wonderful examples of that. While, I, personally, am not comfortable having someone taking pictures of me while in labor, I still see the beauty in it and why others would want to capture those moments. Don’t let some of the comments get to you. People have a wide variety of opinions on different matters. What works for some may not necessarily work for others. That doesn’t mean one person is right and the other is wrong. If you feel strongly to hire a photographer to capture the birth, that is yours and your husband’s right to do so. I can understand how excited you are to have a baby after trying for awhile. I think that excitement will really show through in the photographs as well! Best of luck to you and your family, Bee! 🙂

Post # 49
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I just found out that I’m pregant today, but I’ve been a strong believer in birth photogrpahy for years. My mom had one and now that I’m older, I think it’s kind of sweet to look back on them.

 

I personally don’t shoot L&D but I would contact a few photographers and set up consultations with them, so that you and Darling Husband can get to know whose out their and pick the best photograher for you 

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think if it sounds like something you want then go for it.

I didn’t have a photographer and wish I had. I already had a doula and she was more than happy to take photos. In theory. But not all first time labors have those long quiet moments and when you’re blowing through red lights to get to the hospital in time, let me tell you: No one thinks to pull a camera out.

She snapped some after and I’m very happy that we have those. I do wish we had more – all the ones we have are very dark.

And definitely don’t assume a nurse can do it. While many will offer, not all will. And if there are any issues with either you or the baby, all attention will be there. We have no solo pictures of our little man right after he was born bc I hemorrhaged and every single person was focused on that.

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

hollyberry4 :  I’ve seen birth photos from my friend birth. Hooha and all + first time latching. She leaves her books on the coffee table as a normalizing birth moment. Each person is different. I cried looking at her book. It was incredibly emotional and beautiful. Whether you choose no nudity or full on birth action photos I think you should do it!

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee

This is so weird. I honestly can’t believe people are worried about strangers seeing their vag while giving birth… ummm…? 

And saying they don’t like the props and poses… what??? 

OP, go for it! I always think you can get that money back (sell baby gear that you no longer need, or just through saving again) but you will never have the chance to retake those photos. I think it’s awesome for the new dad-to-be to be able to actually be present rather than worrying about photos! And he gets photos of his expression, him holding baby, etc that he might not otherwise get. Definitely NOT the nurse’s job to take photos! 

And since when is it only okay to pay for a service if it will be displayed on Fb? My jaw is on the ground with some of these insane comments! 

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The only thing I would say is make sure that your hospital allows it.  The hospital I was at allowed two support people and that’s it, so if you want to make this happen and there’s restrictions you’ll have to work it into your birth plan.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

It’s something I thought about but it turns out the hospital where we gave birth doesn’t allow photography until after the birth. In the end the actual birth was kind of scary too, her heart rate was dropping and I was given an oxygen mask and she was vacuumed out so I don’t think I would have wanted it captured honestly. 

Post # 55
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am neutral about this. We had photos done the day after because I didn’t need “in the now” photos, but some hospitals have very strict rules about visitors. I was allowed 1 “stay over” visitor and only two “visitor-visitors” after birth. My husband was the only one allowed to be in the room with me during labor and birth. I know some other hospitals are more lenient but if you need a c-section it will likely only be one person.

Post # 56
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

hollyberry4 :  Why does everything has to be documented all the time? Can’t we just experience things one in a while? Everything has to have a business & money making angle I guess. I don’t want a photographer there the first time Darling Husband, DS and I are a family. Because it means that this first time as a family didn’t really happen, if that makes sense. There was always someone else there and we would know that our photos are being taken. It just makes it less about the experience and more about getting documentation. I am always uber aware when there is a camera in the room, and I don’t like it. It changes how I act. You may be different.

In terms of being staged, I think what most Bees on here mean is that you are always aware when there is a camera on you, not that there will be props, positioning, etc.

I don’t think the comparison to wedding photography, birthday parties, etc. is fair. This is not a party or celebration, and you don’t share it with guests. Childbirth is intense, unpredicatable, messy and incredibly hard and strenuous physically. It can be harrowing and complications can arise. I don’t think I would want the added pressure of a photographer in the room. This has nothing to do with anyone seeing me naked. Childbirth is not about modesty, that is for sure.

I would be curious about what doctor and nurse Bees think of this trend. I have a friend who is a doctor and he is agaist birth photography during labour and birth. He explains that a photographer can sometimes get in the way when he is delivering a baby, and he himself does not want to be photographed at work.

 

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The only thing I would be a little bit concerned about is whether having a photographer there would create – or add to – pressure to have a certain kind of birth experience. I feel like I know a lot of new moms who have felt a deep disappointment about not having whatever particular type of birth they’d envisioned or hoped for, and I’d worry that you might wind up feeling extra bad if, say, you have a super fast labor and the photographer doesn’t get there in time, or if you wind up needing a c section and they won’t allow the photographer in the operating room. 

I don’t want to start telling birth horror stories to a pregnant mama, but I can say that my son’s birth took quite a few left turns and – while everyone turned out just fine and I came to terms with it fast – I know for me it would have added an extra layer of disappointment if I’d expected to have a beautiful picture of the first time I met my son, and instead had just wound up with shots of what actually happened. We all build this moment up in our heads so much and sometimes, it just turns out to kind of suck. But you know yourself and what you can handle much better than any of us internet strangers do, so don’t let anyone dissuade you if this is definitely what you want! It’s a splurge but if it’s worth it to you, it’s worth it. God knows I spent more than that on a private room at the hospital because it was so important to me not to have to share with a stranger. I felt a little nuts spending so much but… I also don’t regret it a bit. 

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

hollyberry4 :  because giving birth feels way more vulnerable and intimate than anything else I’ve ever experienced, and I don’t want pics of that. I made the comparison about sex because if nobody was taking pics of us creating the baby then I don’t want pics of me pushing the baby out either. But everybody’s different – if you want pics then go for it 🙂

Post # 59
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

amanda3334455 :  I see where you are coming from. I just feel like some things don’t need to be documented and not having photos does not make them less special.

I wouldn’t be surprised if one day we had “loss of virginity photos”, LOL.

“I waited so long for it to happen, it was a special and intimate experience. It will never happen again and I wanted it captured! It is so good to have photos of this beautiful moment in time!”

Post # 60
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

MrsOwen :  lol, I find some of this laughable.  Trust me, when you are giving birth you probably wouldn’t notice if an elephant walked in the room.  A good photographer is there but is out of the way.  You wouldn’t even notice them.  Are you planning a homebirth with only your Darling Husband there?  Otherwise, you are going to have at least 4 other people in the room with you and your husband when you “become a family”.  I guess becomeing a family only counts when you’re alone with your DH!  Who GAF if someone wants to have a birth photographer?? You do you and let other people do what they want.  It’s not hurting anyone.  I didn’t have one but some of the action photos right after birth are some of the best (I only have a couple) so I could see why someone would want more.  It’s such a blur and you don’t remember it later on, I could see why some quality pictures would be nice.

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