Post # 16
annabananabee : when I mentioned the ring to my sister, she changed the subject. So, either she’s wearing a substantial 3 stone ring on her left hand for fun, or she’s engaged. I am fairly close to my sister, so it wouldn’t have been hard to just tell me she’s not engaged. However, she is the “you need to hear that from so-and-so” type of person. I’m comfortable with my assumption.
And you’re assuming I don’t know the man she’s with. I’ve met him several times, but I don’t have any patience for a relationship when both parties were married when it started. (Especially when my mom was telling my dad she wanted to work things out for most of it.)
Post # 17
snpmarin : ok, yes, I assumed you wouldn’t know the potential fiance of a woman you have been estranged from for years and not in contact with for months. But that wasn’t the point of my post. The point was you aren’t close enough for her to tell you that information herself so you HAD to make assumptions. The point wasn’t whether or not the assumptions themselves were correct – they likely are. Did you not tell your dad or your sister or your best friend about your engagement? Did you just keep that information to yourself? I’m guessing not – because you are close with them and generally people want the people they are close to to share in their good news. Your mom didn’t do that with you and that seems like a pretty good indicator of the status of your relationship. Just because you share DNA doesn’t mean they are close enough to warrant an jnvite.
Post # 18
We haven’t announced our engagement yet.