(Closed) Mama Drama…I Need Help!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you can afford to pay for it without the help of your parents, I would do that. Once people start contributing money, they feel they have a right to make all the decisions, when in reality, it is still YOUR wedding.

Tell your mother that you aren’t budging on the venue, or having your future in-laws’ names on the invitiations, and if she doesn’t like she can keep her money.

Post # 4
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It sounds like your Mom is being petty. You have to deicide if it’s ruining your wedding planning, and if it’s the money worth it to you. Either way it’s time to sit down and have a talk with mom.

Post # 5
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Re. the invitations: why not suggest wording along the lines of …

(Your Parents’ Names)

request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter

(Your Name)


(FI’s Name),

son of

(FI’s Parents’ Names)

details, yadda yadda yadda …

That way, both sets of parents are named, but it’s clear that your parents are the hosts (since that apparently matters a lot to her).

Would this be a workable compromise?

(When you face issues like this – and there will be more to come, I promise – try to think of wedding planning as a process that helps you refine your communication and negotiation skills, which will be important for helping you build a successful marriage. Even though this one is with your mom rather than your Fiance, the practice is still useful for future conversations you’ll be having with him.)

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