Mamas Realistic Advice Wanted

posted 10 months ago in Parenting
Post # 48
8751 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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sarathemermaid :  I like the part-time work plan! Just not the night shift plan. Do you have any other skills you could use to start freelancing now and then make that your part-time gig post kids? You’ll have more control over your schedule and the pay will likely be better. 

Post # 49
2039 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Im a line cook in a restaurant, when i was pregnant i was working to 12am almost 5 days a week…

i took 12 weeks maternity leave as well. 

when i came back from maternity leave i work mainly afternoons, typically get home around 8 or a little earlier then that, but depending on if i decide to put in some over time i have stayed till 9 to 10pm. But thats a rare day here and there. 

at my job full time is considered 32 hours, so i was able to go down to 4 days a week but slightly longer shifts in order to stay full time and keep my benefits. 

Post # 51
4126 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Make sure too that you’re factoring costs for baby: formula, health insurance, diapers, clothes, college fund….a sitter for nights out…

Post # 52
716 posts
Busy bee

OP, I agree with the other posters that you may be making life harder on yourself with working ‘part time’ as a server. Essentially you want to have 2 almost full time jobs without childcare. No matter how you work out the hours, that doesn’t seem realistic. Try to think about this with your long term goals in mind. In the long term, is it worth quitting your current job?

You say you realistically have a 1k shortfall each month if you quit. What’s the cost of daycare in your area? What’s the shortfall, if any, if you continued to work, while having your kid at a daycare? And by quitting, what do you lose in terms of benefits, work experience, 401k etc? 

What impact would it have on your household taxes for you to quit your job? Would it move you to a lower tax bracket?

What are your long term career plans? Once the kids are in school, you don’t want to be in a line of work that makes it hard for you to re enter the workforce. Would staying in your job now get you career growth and more money in the future? 

Don’t just make these decisions from a short term perspective. You may not come out ahead in the short term but if it means coming out ahead in the long term, then that’s what you should do! Good luck, OP. These are never simple choices. 

Post # 53
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Fully understand your desire to be with baby. Yes, it sounds doable.

But I think you should also do a lot of research on frugal living. Many people have found numerous says to cut expenses to live on less money. You may not even need the night job.

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