(Closed) Man Drama *sigh*

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

This really stinks! I feel your pain, as I tend to purge dramatic people also. What if your fiance spoke to his two groomsmen about the issue – in a heartfelt but not cheesy or dramatic way – and let them work it out. If the two women aren’t as dramatic as the boys, they may be able to work it out amongst themselves. Here’s hoping!!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

lol, and they said that women are drama. If the breakups are sort of amicable, I really would put my foot down and ask the guys to “get over it”. If the breakups are due to infidelity on either side, then the wronged party should NOT be excluded from the wedding. Just my take. Is there any compromise? such as maybe allow the girls to assist in reading or decorations, but not in the wedding party itself? This way, you have every excuse to invite them for the bachelorette or bridal shower party

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

These guys have no right to try to dictate your guest list.  Especially guy A saying that you can’t invite her unless she’s his date?!  He “put his foot down”?  Where does he get off?!  If these women are your friends then invite them as your guests, and the men can grow up and deal with it.  They don’t get to veto your guests.  I would be a little more sympathetic about the divorce situation because it sounds like that’s an understandable discomfort and he’s not being ridiculous about it.  But the fact that guy A is still sleeping with her kind of means that he has no right to say that he’s uncomfortable being around her.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m wioth greenleaf.  It’s YOUR wedding and you get to invite who you want.  Since it seems as though everyone is on relatively good terms and none of the breakups were for hideous reasons (like infidelity) they guys can suck it up for an evening.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you should be able to invite the two women as well. Also, as you stated, I think you should talk to girls about the issues these two guys brought up.

Have you considered suggesting that the two women talk to their ex’s about the situation to possibly work something out where they can tolerate seeing each other at the wedding? Of course, they may not be ready for that type of confrontation.

I hope this all works out for you and that the guys (more specifically, Guy A) can put their issues aside so you and your Fiance can have the people you love at your wedding.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

There is something about adults acting like children that really gets to me. 

Anyhow, if you just invited who you wanted to invite (these two women AND the guys), would the drama really escalate?  Or would it possibly die down?  I mean, if they’re all still hanging out together at a bar, it can’t be THAT vitriolic, right?

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