Post # 1
Has anyone ever heard of this? A friend is engaged and shopping around for a ring to give her fiance since their wedding isn’t for a few years. I kind of like the idea of giving him something to commemorate the engagement, but it seems weird to go with a ring since men can’t exactly stack their engagement and wedding bands.
Did anyone buy their man an engagement ring or other present?
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE
I bought my Fiance a man-gagement ring at his request 🙂
He asked me what the norm was for guys as he has never been taught any of these things and he wanted to know if he should get a ring too or if he had to wait for the wedding.
I told him that it’s more of a modern tradition for the man to wear an engagement ring as well but I would ABSOLUTELY buy him one if he wanted! My sister’s now husband wore an engagement ring at her request (so that everyone would see he was taken too) so we weren’t the first ones in our circle to do so or anything.
We got matching Enso rings and he wears his all the time whereas I wear mine any time I’m not wearing my nice ring (cooking, cleaning, bathing, swimming, sleeping, etc.)
He plans to get a nicer ring when we get married and either continue wearing this one on his right hand or only wearing the nicer one for special occasions.
It’s his hands/fingers so I don’t really care what he does, as long as he has some sort of visible symbol of his commitment which is something he wanted right away 🙂
Post # 3
My SIL asked my brother to wear one but it was pretty much just because she’s very insecure (honestly love her but it’s a pretty obvious flaw she has) and thought it would stop women from hitting on him. He wore one to appease her and now just wears it as his wedding band.
I did ask my husband if he wanted something (like maybe a watch if not a ring) and he said no so we just bought him a wedding band before the wedding.
Post # 4
Where I’m from it’s the norm for a man to wear an engagement ring too. If they get a second ring or not for the wedding is opptional. Most people just add another engraving to their engagement ring.
Post # 5
I proposed to my fiance without any ring. We ended up getting eachother rings that weekend to celebrate. He’ll keep wearing his as a wedding ring and I’ll get one similar in style to his to add as a wedding band. The other option we had (if he wanted a second ring) was to get matching wedding bands and he’d alternate rings based on what he was feeling that day.
Post # 6
I got my fiancé a ring, I wanted to give him something in return and he found a ring he liked. We ll both be putting them on our right hands once we re married 🙂
Post # 7
I proposed to my fiance on February 29th, where he is from in Sweden it is the norm for both parties to have an engagement ring so it made sense to me. However I proposed with a signet ring that will move to his right hand when he gets his wedding ring.
Post # 8
I bought Fiance a wallet as an engagement gift and then got him an engagement ring a few months later. He picked it although I showed him a few and the one he chose was in there, he’s the one who wears it! It will not be his wedding band, we will buy a wedding band close to the wedding.
Post # 9
In Scandinavia this is the norm! Both the man and the women gets a ring when they get engaged! But then only the woman gets a second ring at the wedding, the mans ring is taken of before hand and given to him again at the wedding as a wedding ring instead! 🙂
Post # 10
I honestly had never heard of this outside an episode of “Boy meets World” (yeah, Topanga gave Corey an engagement ring as he ask for one). I think it’s sweet if your guy wants to buy sort of sad if it out of insecurity. No ring will actually stop a cheater (personal observation).
Post # 11
I used to date a guy who lived in Canada, but had grown up in the Middle East. His brothers had all had engagement rings. They got the ring, and wore it on the right hand. Then after marriage, it was switched to the left hand.
Post # 12
My fiance has an engagement ring that he wears on his right hand. When we get married, he’ll keep that one on his right hand and wear a wedding band on the left.
Post # 13
It’s interesting that this is the norm in other cultures! Honestly I guess I thought rings in general were more of an American thing.
I do agree that if you’re doing it out of insecurity you shouldn’t be getting engaged in the first place. But I think it’s kind of a warm fuzzy feeling to look down and see a sign of your love on their hand.
Post # 14
We bought a ring for my Fiance, which he wears on his left hand. He lived in Sweden for several years and thought the custom was nice. His engagement ring is pretty inexpensive, when we bought our wedding bands we upgraded his band so he will be getting a newer and nicer ring then.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2016 - Temecula, California
My husband proposed without the ring (it was waiting at our jeweler’s for us to pick up). When we went to go pick it up he was looking at the men’s rings and asked, “do I get one?” It was so freaking cute. I explained that typically men only wear a ring when they are married but he could have an engagement ring if he wanted. He wanted. He was so excited and loved his new ring. He wore it throughout the whole engagement and he told me that he would keep the same band for his wedding band. At our wedding rehearsal I surprised him with a new shiny wedding band that he loved. Lol. I wouldn’t force a guy to wear a engagement ring, but if they want to I don’t see anything wrong with that! I think it shows that they are excited to be engaged/married, which is a good sign to me!