(Closed) Man-gagement ring

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I suggested that to my FH, and he said He’d rather not have one, because he’s not a huge jewelry person, and once we get our wedding bands he won’t want to wear 2 rings.  I completely understand where you are coming from, but for us it just didn’t work.  

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2002

I think it’s a very romantic idea…good on you! Depends on his taste however. Would he wear a RHR? Doug Peterson on etsy makes some beautiful, solid heirloom quality men’s rings at very good prices or if money is no object, how about an overpriced, yet very fashionable bracelet or other accessory from David Yurman. Men’s bracelets are hotter than hot right now. Wedding cufflinks maybe? Go for it…Yay feminism!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I did. I too struggled with the idea of having a ring due to my feminist ideals but really wanted a sparkly bit of jewellery! I got him a titanium band and said he didn’t have to wear it if he didn’t like it but it eased my conscience! Turns out he actually wanted more bling than me and now wears a huge 4ct moissanite as his mangagement ring but it will be his wedding band too!!! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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MsBeer :  We paid for my ring together, so it didn’t feel quite as weird as it would have if I was getting a huge gift and he wasn’t. I totally know what you mean about the struggle, but keep in mind that feminism is the right to choose what we want in life. Everyone here chose sparkle, and that’s fine!

I am pretty sure your SO doesn’t want a ring. What if you got him something he would really want? A nice watch? I know that my husband would probably be more into a video game or new technology before a ring or watch. Get him a gift he’d want (unless you think a man-gagement ring would mean a lot to him).

Post # 6
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Helper bee

It’s a nice idea for the man to get something also instead of just the woman. In a way I always felt the man spends so much money for something for somebody else, and he gets nothing. But that is the custom at least in this country. That said though, my husband loves his wedding ring (he actually has two: the original one he wears for special occasions or out somewhere, and a stand-in for everyday which gets destroyed…that’s why he doesn’t wear the good one all the time!!). He would not have been the least bit interested in an engagement ring or even other jewelry, but he might have liked me to buy him some goodie that he’d really want. But he does get that now when I surprise him with something.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Fiance and I exchanged promise rings before he preposed (which was only 3-months later), so I didn’t feel the need to get another ring on top of that. He wears it on his right hand. When we get married, he will have an “upgraded” ring and wear it on his left hand.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You obviously know your fiancé better than anyone here, but I can’t see any guy I know going for this. Fiance would look at me like I had 10 heads if I suggested this. 

 

And is PP serious about her husband wearing a 4ct equiv moissy? Eeeek. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2002

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mrscb2bee :  Difference is what makes life interesting…don’t you think? It would be pretty boring if all men only wore construction boots and jeans and women only wore high heels and skirts, etc.. There’s nothing wrong with men who wouldn’t dream of wearing jewelry just as there’s nothing wrong with men who love it! Her husband rocks that 4 C moissanite rather well! laughing

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Me me me! I bought my now Fiance an engagement ring and planned a counter-proposal for when immediately after he proposed to me. It was wonderful! (Planning, disaster strikes, and the proposal posts linked!) I’d bought a stand-in ring, then we picked this one out together afterwards.

The feminist in me just hated the idea of this tradition being all about me, making it special for just me, not for him. He’d liked the idea of having a ring during and engagement, so I planned the counter-proposal to do something for him. I also paid for half of my ring, as his was quite inexpensive, and it didn’t feel quite fair for him to have to spend this huge amount on me. (We picked out my ring together, but I didn’t see the completed ring until he proposed.)

We both loved the experience. The story has been a joy to tell to everyone, and I love that we both have the same symbols of commitment we wear every day through our engagement now.

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