(Closed) Man-gagement ring

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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manderson62 :  Touché 

 

However I quite like my contractor fiancé who wears dirty jeans and construction boots everyday 😋

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2002

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mrscb2bee :  Understandably, he’s very handsome! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding date! I still think he’d look great in jeans and t-shirt wearing one of these wink.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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MsBeer :  I understand the sentiment completely.  It’s just neither of us could justify the added expense for something we knew he wouldn’t wear.  It’s a personal preference, but if it’s important to you, go for it!

Post # 20
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Newbee

I have already purchased my SO an engagement ring for after she proposes. I know it’s a bit different because we are both women, but she is definitely the more masculine of the two of us, and prefers to wear men’s styles in everything from clothing to watches and jewelery, so it’s kind of the same idea, I think? I bought her a tungsten carbide ring with my birthstone and my ring will have a garnet, which is her birthstone. I love the idea of us both having a symbol of our engagement. 

When I first mentioned the idea of getting her an engagement ring, she did look at me like I was crazy, but when I explained my reasoning (basically what everyone has already mentioned above), she was all for it. She will get a different band for the wedding ring, and she can either move the e-ring to her right hand, or just wear it in place of the wedding band when she wants to. smile

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2002

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pjsandwine :  Love it! Gift giving (engagement gift giving too) is an expression of love that lifts the other person up. Doesn’t matter if it’s a tool set, a Twinkie, or a twinkling diamond…it really is the feeling behind it that counts!

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Orange County, CA

I think having an man-gagement ring is romantic! It seems like it makes the engagement period a more shared experience.  We didn’t do this because we had such a short engagement (8 months! procrasticated – wedding planned in 20 days!) But my friend who had a long 2 year engagement got an afforable titanium band fer her fiance and he loved it!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

I gave my fiancé an engagement ring too, on a very special anniversary trip. I even got down on one knee. He loved it and is proud to wear his ring and tell people the story of how he also got proposed to.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2002

 I’m surprised some big jewelry company hasn’t had this idea before. They could call them men’s “placeholder rings”, meant to be worn until wedding rings are exchanged. Why should a woman wear a big ring saying she’s taken while the man looks unmarried until it’s actually legal. Seems like there’s some sexism going on there.🤔

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Since my husband and I both love to swing dance and wore boots to our wedding, I got him a pair of “engagement boots” that we wore to our wedding. He loves his wedding band, but I wouldn’t sink a lot of money into an ‘engagement ring’ for a man…because we wear both all the time…but I don’t think a man would.

Post # 26
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Helper bee

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manderson62 :  thank you!! He’s larger than life and can totally carry off such a bling ring! 😉

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

My Fiance, a sneakerhead, got a pair of designer shoes (his choice, not mine) and I paid off his student loans as a surprise. Before I actually asked him what he would want, I was considering a nice watch.

edit: I realized this sounded like crazy lavish but wanted to add that he didn’t have that much left on the loans.  

Post # 28
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Busy bee

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MsBeer :  If he wouldn’t wear both an engagement ring and a wedding band after you get married, have you considered another gift that is special and shows how well you know him as an engagement present?  A watch? Something that has to do with his favorite hobby? Some other luxury he wouldn’t necessarily buy himself?  I very much liked the idea of also gifting my Fiance an engagement present, but knew he was not a jewelry person. I ended up working with a custom artist to purchase a high-end guitar and while the majority of it was built to his “dream” specifications, the designer and I added engravings that had the latitude/longitude of the location Fiance proposed to me. As a “thank you” he surprised me with using it to perform at our wedding. We then added the lat/long coordinates of our wedding location to the guitar as well. He still beams every time he plays it, looks at it or talks about it and when it isn’t in use it’s used as a display piece in his office. Neither of us felt like it was a wasted 6k, and it made him feel known, loved and spoiled too.  Maybe there is another romantic option for your guy?  Or, do you like the idea of claiming him with a ring and exchanging that specific symbolism with him?  Because if so, go for it.  It’s sweet.

Post # 29
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Helper bee

My now husband wanted an engagement ring of his own.  In my family, it’s traditional for the woman to get her fiance a typically about the price of the engagement ring present, so I was expecting to get him something anyways.

He picked out a simple titanium band, because that’s what he wanted.  He’s rather sentimental, so when we got married, he just had it engraved with our intials and wedding date as the engagement fulfilled and now it’s his wedding band.  It was a lot less than what I planned to pay, but it was what he wanted.

Post # 30
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Busy bee

My fiance asked for an engagement ring (he came up with the idea!), so I spent about $150 on a nice one from Etsy that I thought he’d like and proposed to him exactly six months after he proposed to me. He wears it on his right hand, and hasn’t decided yet if he’ll continue wearing it after we’re married but is definitely considering it. If you know/think your SO would wear one, I say get it! People have asked my fiance about his ring (they sometimes confuse it for a wedding ring) and he enjoys explaining it to them since it’s still such a novel idea for most.

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