(Closed) Man-gagement ring

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Busy bee

My guy is not into jewelry, it will be odd even seeing him with a wedding band. That being said, while I’m not going to give him a “mangagement ring,” I do plan on getting him some type of counter-proposal gift after he proposes to me. I’m not sure what it will be yet though. 

Post # 47
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Busy bee

I knew that DH would love to have a plain gold band as wedding band, so I went ahead and bought it for him. He was so shocked at the proposal 🙂 He didn’t take it off ever since.

Post # 48
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Worker bee

I had all the same thoughts! It was really important to my fiance that he paid for my ring on his own. To me i wanted it to be fair and equal so i planned to propose to him as well with a ring. More than wanting to be equal i really wanted to do something nice for my fiance for when he proposed but he isn’t the type to wear a ring. So instead i went with my gut and i got him a really nice watch and i originally planned to propose to him with it like he had done for me. Instead it felt more natural to give it to him during quiet night at home. I think just go with what fits you and your significant other best.  

Post # 49
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Busy bee

I take issue (as a feminist) with the “man-gagement ring” label. It’s an engagement ring. The fact that it’s on a dude doesn’t make it less of an engagement ring. Why do we feel the need to give men their own labels for things? 

Anyway, if your guy is into jewelry get him an engagement ring. If jewelry isn’t his bit, get him another thoughtful gift to celebrate your engagement. My guy is not into jewelry so it’s not for us, but I think if he wants to wear an engagement ring then that’s a very sweet gesture and it’s a great idea to get him one.

Post # 50
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Blushing bee

My man loves bling too, i got him an engagement ring after he surprised me with the proposal and after our wedding his went on to his right hand. 

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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MsBeer :  you know I did!! He wanted one and I gave it to him the day he proposed. It was a titanium band and he wore it on his ring finger until we got married. He wears it now as a stunt ring as it deans have any stones and his wedding band has diamonds in it. He loved showing off that he was taken. Ask your SO! He might really like the idea 😉 it seemed fair to me as I got a ring and so did he!

Post # 53
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Worker bee

I’m a guy who really enjoyed having an engagement ring, and highly recommend it to anyone who’s considering the option. It was fun to have a visual symbol of my own to mark the relationship, it felt equitable for us both to wear rings, and I really love the ring itself! Now that we’re married and I have a wedding band, I occasionally switch them out when I feel like it, and occasionally wear one on each hand.

I also recommend it from a practical perspective for guys who aren’t used to wearing rings–I know wearing a wedding ring would feel incredibly weird to me now if I hadn’t gotten used to the engagement ring already.

Post # 54
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Busy bee

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MsBeer :  In my culture, the bride to be receives her band with the engagement ring. The groom to be also gets a band as well. These are prayed upon during an engagement ceremony in our church.  

We wear our bands (bride to be engagement ring as well) on our right hands.  Once we are married we move the rings to the left, closest to the heart.  

Post # 58
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

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littlemogwai :  omg you just made me feel so much better about me contributing to my ring – some people I think look down on me and my fiance for that and I’m just like, it was a huge purchase! I actually paid for over half of it because I picked a ring that was kind of expensive, but I loved it and have a job and he’s still in school so he barely has enough to make rent. The fact that he worked his butt off to contribute a third of the cost was amazing to me. Plus, he’ll be paying for me for a lot of things when he graduates and we get married because I’ll be in law school! So it all balances out. But yeah I feel like some people are just so judgy about it. Anyways, just finding another person who has done that makes me feel better! Also, did you bring up him having an e-ring? or did he? I’m thinking about doing something like that when my bf proposed but I wasn’t sure how to bring it up! 

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

MsBeer :  I got him a necklage that had in Hebrew writing “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine” (it was part of his engagement card to me).  I liked it so much I got myself one also lol  I joked to him that if he gets to mark his territory I get to mark my territory also!

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