- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
Why should it not be a thing?
Why should it not be a thing?
Well, my Fiance hates rings, so this is a no-go for us, but whatever, if someone else wants one, they should go for it.
While my husband and I were wedding planning we bought his ring and he wanted to start wearing it while we were still engaged. I got to wear a ring, so why shouldn’t he? I certainly didn’t need to give him permission, but I did tell him I thought it was sweet and nice that he’d be able to get used to it before the wedding (he actually ended up buying a smaller size because after wearing it for a couple weeks he didn’t like how loose his original was).
So, OP, do you see something wrong with that?
I wonder what would happen if all men starting demanding rings worth thousands of dollars before they felt comfortable being engaged.
I need to clarify; I don’t have a problem with guys wanting an engagement ring. I think that is sweet. I just don’t like the term “man-gagement ring”. Why do we need to make it a gender specific thing? I don’t think engagement rings are a strictly female thing so why do we need a new word to describe a ring a man wears when he is engaged to be married?
spazzychica: I don’t get why it’s so ridiculous to you? I find it far more ridiculous that women want to wear dresses that make them feel like “princesses” than a man wanting to wear a piece of jewellery.
vhenke1: You realise gay men are men? They don’t magically morph into women because they’re gay.
I feel like you are backpedaling a bit from the tone of your original thread. Then again, it’s the internet.
It’s a big corporate jewelry gimmick to market something that many couples have been doing for years already in hopes that they make it an actual cultural tradition for the masses. Which means, more money for them. As for the ring itself, it’s not really anyone’s business to judge how a couple decides to signify their commitment to one another.
My future brother in law wears an “man-gagement ring”. I asked him once why he was wearing his wedding ring already, and he explained it was his engagement ring. I didn’t blink an eye. It’s not the “norm” but that doesn’t mean it’s weird. As another person said, it could be for a homesexual couple as well. Some men are more into accessories and fashion, or want to show their status as a taken man. And why is the woman the only one that gets a present or some bling? To each their own I say.
I agree the term is pretty lame though. haha
i knew a guy who wore one in 2001. also, what if the girl proposes. why shouldn’t the man show he is engaged as well or does that not count?
Some men like to wear rings. My dad wears a RHR. I don’t see anything wrong with a man wearing an engagement ring – whether to signify that he’s engaged or just because he fancies a ring.
I do wonder though if (most) men plan to wear the two rings on the same finger. Just because mens rings are generally thicker. I don’t know any men who wear engagement rings to ask.
I actually purchased an engagement ring for my Fiance. He wanted one and picked out an octopus one. It’s just something he wanted. Also, as something to show that he’s taken.
I bought my Fiance a promise ring when he bought me my first ring since we wanted to both have symbols of commitment. When he ordered my official engagement ring, I got him a new ring too. He loves the idea of having a ring, and we never called it “man-gagement”. The term is stupid, the idea is traditional in many cultures and religions. Once we start shopping for wedding bands, you can bet your butt that my future husband is getting another ring too 😛
Mrs.Daly: My Darling Husband wanted to wear an engagament ring, for whatever reason. He’s not a jewelry guy, but was so proud and happy to be engaged that I guess he wanted to flaunt it. I thought it was super cute, and obviously wasn’t going to tell him no.
So, I let him pick it out, bought it and he wore it during the engagement process. For the wedding, I picked out an upgraded (higher quality, more expensive) ring that I gave to him during the ceremony. He wears the e-ring when he is “dressed down”. So, for work (very physical career), during day-to-day. He wears the nicer wedding band all other times when he is dressed up… Weekends, vacations, date nights, etc. He def wouldn’t be able to wear both together.
I don’t think that I’m going to be able to get my Darling Husband to wear a wedding band, let alone a ring prior to marriage. But in his family, they just don’t wear them. I don’t think I’ve ever seen his Dad wear a band, his older brother and I’ve seen his middle brother wear his but only on rare occassions.
I know people hate hearing this, but a lot of the traditions associated with weddings are just really successful marketing ploys to make us think we have to buy things. Diamond engagement rings are the #1 worst offender in that respect – they are literally an invention of the Da Beers cartel. If marketers can convince men that they need engagement rings too, that doubles the market for them.
The fact that people have such a negative reaction to men’s engagement rings but take women’s engagement rings for granted is funny to me. Engagement rings in general are totally unnecessary. But as long as we’re going to have them, why not both genders?
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