Man here: what would the best for my future wife?

posted 8 months ago in Rings
  • poll: Which one would you choose?
    East-West Solitaire : (28 votes)
    25 %
    Petite Cathedral : (37 votes)
    33 %
    Nouveau Knife Edge Six Prong : (19 votes)
    17 %
    Tapered Cathedral : (29 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 2
    2533 posts
    Sugar bee

    Have you asked HER what sort of setting she likes/wants?

    East/West is not traditional. And I would not recommend 6 prongs for a center diamond of that size. So I would vote for one of the cathedrals. 

    Post # 3
    9338 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    6 prongs will be a lot on a diamond that size IMO, it might affect how much light is getting into the stone and make it look smaller.

    The basket on the east/west is kind of clunky IMO.

    I would do one of the cathedral settings. Personally I like the tapered because it looks like the stone is the most supported and the least likely to snag on things.

    Post # 4
    4391 posts
    Honey bee

     If she likes traditional, go with either of the cathedral settings.

    I’d avoid the compass (east/west setting).  I like it on square cuts, but not round personally.  It can also sometimes interfere with a wedding band sitting flush (though that might not be an issue with this ring if it has a matching band you also plan to purchase from the site).

    I’d also avoid the knife edge unless you know she likes that style band.  I know some people find it uncomfortable, though they eventually get used to usually.  6 prongs is also overkill on a .6 diamond.

    Post # 5
    1439 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

    +1 for 4 prongs, not 6.  6 will make her diamond look smaller.  I would highly recommend going with the east-west.  It’s definitely traditional, but the most stylish of all of them I believe.

    Post # 6
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I voted East/West. I have a pretty classic/traditional style, but that doesn’t necessarily mean absolute bare-bones basic. The east/west one has the most style while still being classic. 

    Post # 7
    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2019 - Premier Ballroom

    I am all for the Cathedrals. Petite is my personal fave as it is a softer look and less chunkier and I think would look more stylish for the size of the diamond. I don’t have a ring like that so unfortunately I would not be able to post a pic!

    Post # 9
    744 posts
    Busy bee

    I like the east west – it’s like classic with a twist, plus I think it imitates the look of the 6-prong without overwhelming the diamond

    Post # 10
    2407 posts
    Buzzing bee

    One of the cathedral settings is probably your best bet, given that your girlfriend wants something classic and traditional.

    The tapered cathedral will proibably make the diamond ‘pop’ more.  

    the east west/kite setting is not traditional and tends to be a setting that people have really strong “love it or hate it” feelings about.

    the knife edged nouveau setting is pretty but a lot of women find a knife edge band to be physically uncomfortable to the point of being unwearable.

    Have you considered a temporary setting and letting her pick the final setting?  

    Post # 11
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    You should take her shopping to see what she like. Just get her to try on a bunch of rings and then decide from there. It will still be able to be a bit of a surprise, but most women would rather have a piece that they love instead of a surprise. Or if you are super opposed to that, look at photos together. Have her show you what she likes. Look at specifics, not vague ideas.

    None of the rings you suggested really seem stylish and classic to me. They all seem pretty bland. But that could just be my taste. When I hear stylish and traditional, I picture a thin band and an oval stone. Not sure why, but that’s what comes to my mind. But other brides feel TOTALLY different. For some women, those bands are exactly that. My point is, you should really get your girlfriend’s input. Even if she just sends you pictures of things she likes. 

    Post # 12
    4391 posts
    Honey bee

    East/west isn’t traditional so if she leans that way then it isn’t a safe bet.

    And I personally just find that setting on a round diamond pointless and it usually makes the basket clunkier and harder for a band to sit flush with it when you rotate it like that 45 degrees (but I didn’t do the 360 view, so it might not be an issue here).  I love me some compass/kite set princess or other square cut stones.  Just not round unless it is exceptionally unique or somehow enhances the stone or setting in a way that a traditionally set stone couldn’t accomplish.  This particular setting is just not that exceptional imo.

    Post # 13
    131 posts
    Blushing bee

    If your goal is to make the diamond pop, I don’t know if you’re open to a bezel setting but in my opinion it really highlights the stone and makes it look bigger. Even though it’s an ancient way of stone setting it’s not very common for engagement rings. So it’s traditional and modern at the same time. If you’re not sure what she wants though, maybe ask her? Or if you want to surprise her give her the loose diamond and pick out the setting together. Good luck! 

    Post # 14
    527 posts
    Busy bee

    My vote is for the tapered cathedral. I agree that four prongs will look best with your diamond. I also think this setting will give her the most flexibility when choosing a wedding band.

    Post # 15
    2533 posts
    Sugar bee

    OP, East/West means that the 4 prongs are offset by 90 degrees.

    This means that there is a prong on either side of the ering band. These prongs on either side will rub up against any wedding band and leave a gap.

    Also, as pp have said, it’s kinda pointless for a round. The whole point of rotating 4 prongs 90 degrees is to present the center stone from an unusual angle. 

    So a marquee or emerald cut is now horizontal. A cushion or princess or asscher shape becomes a “diamond” shape, etc. 

    A round cut just stays round, so that setting is pointless unless you KNOW your gf loves it. I for one hate it, so I’d be upset if my Darling Husband had gotten me that setting. 

    None of the options you presented are chunky, so you’re fine there. So long as the shank is 1.8-2.2mm wide, the setting will appear “delicate.”

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