(Closed) Man needing help with choosing engagement ring and suggestions on the proposal..

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Welcome! I think for that price, you could get a very nice princess cut diamond around the 1 carat mark in a solitaire setting.

Is there a reason you’re buying the ring in Dubai? I only ask because I’m not familiar with the jewelry industry and pricing there compared to the US.

Post # 4
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7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i cant help you with the ring – but as for romantic ideas on how to propose, there are tons of ideas. i think its best to start with what you know she likes and put a spin on it.  for example, my husband knows i am obsessed with going to the beach – so he proposed on the beach under the stars during a weekend camping trip – it was perfect for ME! but may not be perfect for a girl who doesnt like outdoors-y stuff.  

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Hi there! 

First thing is to learn what is important in diamonds. The 4Cs. You can google that… but briefly: 

cut – this is easy! she wants princess. Then you look at how well the stone itself is cut.. should be graded like excellent, good, or fair.

carat – this is the size

color – Diamonds are graded from D (colorless) on down the line. D, E, F are considered colorless. G, H, and I are “near colorless”

Clarity – IF is the best, but very rare. Then it goes VVS1, VVS2, VS1, VS2, SI1, SI2, etc. 

How much ring you can buy for your money is going to be super dependent on where you buy the ring. Expensive brands will get you less ring. If you go with a well-respected online site like bluenile, you could get a little over a carat (excellent quality) on a plain platinum band or just about a carat on a slightly blingy band. If you went to a retailer like Tiffany or something, you’d probably end up with closer to a half carat. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Check out bluenile .com. It is a very good website which can tell you exactly how much that would cost. The cost of a diamond depends on the clarity, cut etc. The site will explain.

Princess cut is less expensive than round, oval, pear etc… Assuming it is GIA certified. Just the diamond, spending $5000 not including tax  you are looking at .6 to 1.0 depending on the quality/clarity of the diamond.

If she wants a platinum ring that will significantly up the cost. The band itself could be $1000. Platinum is much more expensive than white gold. The difference is it is heavier and is supposed to enhance the diamond. 

So if you have $4,000 to spend on a princess cut, you are looking at .6 carat to .9, again depending on the clairty.

There is a link on blunile that will explain what cut, clarity, color means.

you do not want to compormise too much on the clarity and color to get a bigger size, because sometimes you can tell. A smaller diamond which is excellent quality can outshine a bigger one. 

In terms of setting, it depends on the person. I would ask her mom, best friend or sister. They would probably know best what she likes becasue setting is very personal.  I would ask them to casually ask her in a discreet way, if they do not know already. The setting coud also up the cost depending on what you get. For example, adding the eternity band, side stones or halo will up the cost. 

Also keep in mind, I dont think you would be able to get the ring insured if it is not GIA certified.

In terms of ways to propose, I would just say make it personal and memorable. It does not have to be a big “To Do” but do things right and do it in a setting where you both feel comfortable. Get down on 1 knee, ask for her parents permission… if that makes sense in your situation. If she does not like PDA or is private, dont do it on a loudspeaker, crowded restaurant etc.. If she is close to her family, I would consider doing it when they are present.  I know it’s the heart that matters, not how you propose, but  once you get engaged EVERYONE willl ask you “how did he do it” and you don’t want to say “I emailed her,” “I did it in bed” “I blurted it outi by accident” etc etc (unless that does not embarass you”) because you will have to tell that story many, MANY times… 

 

Post # 9
Member
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Check out bluenile .com. It is a very good website which can tell you exactly how much that would cost. The cost of a diamond depends on the clarity, cut etc. The site will explain.

Princess cut is less expensive than round, oval, pear etc… Assuming it is GIA certified. Just the diamond, spending $5000 not including tax  you are looking at .6 to 1.0 depending on the quality/clarity of the diamond.

If she wants a platinum ring that will significantly up the cost. The band itself could be $1000. Platinum is much more expensive than white gold. The difference is it is heavier and is supposed to enhance the diamond. 

So if you have $4,000 to spend on a princess cut, you are looking at .6 carat to .9, again depending on the clairty.

There is a link on blunile that will explain what cut, clarity, color means.

you do not want to compormise too much on the clarity and color to get a bigger size, because sometimes you can tell. A smaller diamond which is excellent quality can outshine a bigger one. 

In terms of setting, it depends on the person. I would ask her mom, best friend or sister. They would probably know best what she likes becasue setting is very personal.  I would ask them to casually ask her in a discreet way, if they do not know already. The setting coud also up the cost depending on what you get. For example, adding the eternity band, side stones or halo will up the cost. 

Also keep in mind, I dont think you would be able to get the ring insured if it is not GIA certified.

In terms of ways to propose, I would just say make it personal and memorable. It does not have to be a big “To Do” but do things right and do it in a setting where you both feel comfortable. Get down on 1 knee, ask for her parents permission… if that makes sense in your situation. If she does not like PDA or is private, dont do it on a loudspeaker, crowded restaurant etc.. If she is close to her family, I would consider doing it when they are present.  I know it’s the heart that matters, not how you propose, but  once you get engaged EVERYONE willl ask you “how did he do it” and you don’t want to say “I emailed her,” “I did it in bed” “I blurted it outi by accident” etc etc (unless that does not embarass you”) because you will have to tell that story many, MANY times… 

 

Post # 10
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2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I just wanted to say that I think this is a really, really nice thing for you to do.

Post # 11
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@misssweet: he said 5k pounds not dollars. With the exchange rate thats about $8,000 American ๐Ÿ™‚ 

@Aberdeen2011: since you are shopping with her, maybe feel out which of the Cs she cares most about? And also see if you can check out a few diamonds with different grades to see what you care about. For example, if you can’t tell the difference between a D color and G color… it might not be worth it to you to pay for the D. Or if you can’t spot any difference between VS2 and VVS1, you might not care to spend for the VVS1. Downgrading the quality (if you cant see the difference) will mean bigger carat weight… since you seem to care a lot about that. It’s all a balancing act!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh sorry, did not notice the pounds factor. Yes, with 5,000 pounds you are looking at .8 to 1.1

Good luck!!! 

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