(Closed) Man of honor?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I have my best-MALE-friend my Man of Honor? Please read full post then answer.
    Yes : (15 votes)
    88 %
    No : (2 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    2685 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t see why you can’t have both a man and maid of honor.  It’s clear your male friend is important enough to include in your wedding party, but he may not be able to do all of the typical “maid of honor” things.  And I think mixed gender wedding parties are becoming more common.  Right now, my Fiance and I are considering whether to include his sister with his side of the party.  If we did do that, she’d walk and stand with the groomsmen but would be dressed like the bridesmaids (though maybe in a different color dress).

    Post # 4
    229 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @bleusteel:  +1


    Man of Honour and Maid of Honour would definitely be the way to go!

    Post # 5
    1999 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think you should have your male best friend be your man of honour if both you and your friend want it! I really like the idea of his sister standing on your groom’s side so the wedding party would still be balanced and your Fiance would be happy. 

    Maybe you could ask your female friend to help you with the “girly” part of Maid/Matron of Honor duties (like helping you with the gown) and your male friend would do the others? Take both your male and female friend out to dinner and ask them how they’d feel about dividing their duties so nobody is offended. 

    Post # 6
    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    i voted yes. I think its your special day and you are allowed to have your friend wherever you want ๐Ÿ™‚ besides you can hurt him by not allowing it, you can always have his sister help you get dressed and such.

    Post # 7
    3552 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’m having a Gentleman of Honor. I might also be having a bridesman (haven’t decided yet), and since we’re only having 2 each that would be my whole side. Fiance is having a Best Man and a groom’s woman. I don’t think the matchy matchy visual is the most important thing about picking a bridal party; the most important thing is having the people closest to you standing at your side supporting you.

    I know my GOH isn’t as in to wedding planning as a Maid/Matron of Honor might be, but he does talk to me about it. I keep him updated on my progress and bounce ideas off of him and he does give me feedback. He’s not going to be able to do everything a Maid/Matron of Honor is supposed to do, but a big part of that is that he lives in Europe right now and thousands of miles puts a cramp in anybody’s efforts help.

    I say if they are that important to you, they should be there standing at your side regardless of gender or tradition norms.

    Post # 8
    23597 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @jeepers8505:  Sure, I don’t see a problem with having both! ๐Ÿ™‚ Sounds cute to me!

    Post # 10
    257 posts
    Helper bee

    I agree, Man of Honor AND Maid of Honor!! Have FI’s siblings all stand on his side–Groomsmen and Groomswoman.

    Post # 11
    1069 posts
    Bumble bee

    I see nothing wrong with having both!

    Post # 13
    13 posts
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’m having both a “Man of Honor” and a Matron of Honor at my wedding.  I’m excited to do something different!  My Fiance is also having a female friend from college on his side. ๐Ÿ™‚  She will wear the same dress that my girls are wearing and my Man of Honor will wear the same as the groomsmen.  

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