(Closed) Man, what a downer.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
114 posts
Blushing bee

I’m so sorry you didn’t receive a more positive response from your parents.  Sometimes parent feel their child getting married is a acknowledgement that they are getting older.  Could this be the case?  And, sometimes parents have no clue that their words can be hurtful.   No matter what, take this time to enjoy your engagement and the love you have for your Fiance.  What others think does not matter.  Congratulations and best wishes as you go forward with planning your wedding and your future together.

Post # 4
12973 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is there something else that’s causing their negative reaction?  It seems like there might be some sort of an issue that’s behind all of this.

I wouldn’t go full steam in the planning just yet, mostly because you have almost 2 full years, and things do change – taste, budget, venue, etc. 

Good luck with the family issues, and happy planning!

Post # 5
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Believe in yourself and your decisions.  It really sucks that your parents are not supportive.  You are not overly young, so as an adult they should be more supportive of you.  Speaking from personal experience there is a lot to be said for paying for your own wedding.  My fiance and I don’t make a whole lot of money, but we decided how much we could reasonably save each month and decided when we wanted to get married.  This helps you figure out a realistic budget.  We will have been engaged 17 months, which gave us plenty of time to plan and save.  Another bonus of paying your own way is you get to call the shots.  As soon as parents chip in they sort of get a say in the planning.  If your parents are already giving you a hard time, that might be something to think about.


Good luck, and enjoy your engagement.  Everyone will tell you this, but it really does fly by.

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