- 5 years ago
Normally, I’m all for the American Dream; Fancy Wedding, Great Husband, Decent House, 2.5 Kids, and a Hyper Dog (check!), but when I finally started rooting around planning for my wedding a year ago – I had no idea that there would be so many options (and so little time)! Google became one of my dearest friends and, when my computer and I weren’t fighting, we got along rather swell.
From my limited amount of research (which, compared to the amount of information that Google thought would be fitting to shove in my face), I have discovered that there seem to be 5 Basic Types of weddings. Of course, none of this takes into account any variations thereof or any alterations that can be made to any of the following:
1) The “Huge, Home-Town” Wedding –
This is the one that we all know about. This is the one that 85% of us thought about, at some point, when we were tiny, yet-to-be-replicas of our adult selves. A “home-town wedding” is usually done in either the Bride or Groom’s town of rearing; a place where all of your high-school friends and their significant others still reside in homes right down the street from the ‘old post office’ and your mascot school.
However, with so many people running off and actually enjoying life after high school, the idea that I’d be able to find anyone in my hometown from high-school was pretty remote. Heck, my parents weren’t even living in our “hometown” anymore. Needless to say, there wasn’t anything there that would take me back.
Aside from there not being anyone who would even want to be in my “hometown,” I could never imagine spending buckets of money on a location – I would rather spend it on my guests. I get the idea that every girl gets to be a “princess” when they get married, but I just don’t think that way. I’m not partial to the “big-butt-wedding” idea. (My pocketbook constantly thanks me, haa haa!)
2) The “Intimate” Wedding –
An “intimate” wedding is something that seems to be a bit of an oxymoron to me. Wedding are pretty well announced affairs, and those who show up to them know that that there is going to be some sort of celebration (as there should be); so to me, saying that you’re going to have an “intimate wedding” kinda seems (not impossible) but difficult.
However, I am all for having a small gathering of people that truly care about me and my future Boyfriend/Significant Other/Fiance’/Hubby/Whatever. I would rather go through the trouble of making sure that our party stayed small so that I could lavish attention and affection on my guests, rather than inviting everyone under the sun and hoping that I see each person over the course of the ceremony.
3) The Distance Wedding –
Distance Weddings are something that has caught my attention for a while now. I like the idea that I can combine both the wedding celebration and the Honeymoon into one sha-bang (I’m cheap like that, I know!). I like the idea of keeping the ceremony super-small, no more than 10 people, and doing it in some exotic place that all of us would enjoy. (The fact that I looooove traveling has no sway on this, I assure you :p !) Something about having everything wrapped up into one package (food, lodging, transportation, etc) – like many Distance Wedding Agencies do – makes me like the idea; I mean, let’s be honest, why should the Bride’s wedding day be the most stressful day of her life?
On the flip side of this, I know that a lot of my family members (or, at least the important ones) might not want to travel for something like this. I don’t want to be that Bridezilla that puts her foot down and says “Deal with it.” That would be horrible. That and, a trip to Egypt in the summer sounds a little dry, don’t you think?
4) The Elopement –
Ah, Elopement. When I think of this, I think of someone getting married by Elvis at some shady neon-pink church in Vegas. Granted, there are soooo many other options for this ideal, and I’m sure that 90% of them are beautiful, meaningful, and romantic.
Now, I love my family and I love the idea of getting married before friends and a congregation – but Elopement, to me, is terrifyingly romantic. On a Romantic Scale of 1 to 100, Elopement busts out at a whopping 150. Elopement screams “I love you, and damn anyone who stands in our way!” It’s almost Romeo and Juliet – save for the part where they die and remain star-crossed lovers.
5) The ‘Legal Partners’ Arrangement –
OK. So this is something that I know very little about, and have nothing against. I understand that you have to live together for some-odd years and then, accord to some government, you are legally considered partners. However I’m not sure you get the benefits from one another. Granted, I’m not someone that would want to wait around for 7 years to see “if I like someone enough” to want to marry them – I pretty much know that by year 2 or 3. I’m a “pack-animal,” and I am very much someone who enjoys the thought of spending my life and making memories with someone.
All in all, this idea isn’t my cup of tea. : )
None of these are in preferred or popular order, and are just presented in the order in which I discovered them. I’m a BIG planner when it comes to my future, and I know that I will get married one day – but there are just so many choices!!
Do any of you other Lovely Bees know of some more “wedding types,” and if so, which one do you prefer and/or which one are you planning right now?