Managing stress through infertility

posted 3 months ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

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@penguin14:  My husband also has MFI. He had 1.5 million sperm on his first SA and only four total on his second SA. His numbers were so low that they didn’t even tell us about the morphology/motility. He was referred to a urologist who specializes in MFI, and he put him on clomid (back in October). He is also taking ConceptionXR (a male prenatal made by Theralogix). We were told we will need IVF with ICSI. We find out in about a week if his bloodwork results indicate that he is likely responding to the clomid. If so, he will go in for another SA in 6 weeks so that our RE can finalize our IVF protocol. If not, we will need to do TESE as part of our IVF protocol, which is where they extract sperm directly from the testicles. 

I know what you mean about feeling somewhat relieved. For us, it started out as a female issue (I have PCOS/long cycles), but now it truly feels like an “us” issue. I stopped feeling so much guilt and shame about my body not working properly. We are SO thankful for doctors who know how to help navigate both of our fertility issues.

As far as timeline goes, we started our whole infertility journey in March 2021. That’s when I first went to my gyno to try to figure out what was “wrong” with me. We are hopefully starting IVF by late January/early February 2022. Everyone’s timeline is so different but it has definitely felt like quite the process.

Best of luck to you!!!

Post # 17
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Honey bee
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@penguin14:  unfortunately for me and for many other propel who’ve been through it everything takes so much longer to happen than I initially thought. Everything you have to do is dependent upon your cycle (as you know with the testing, you are relying on your monthly cycle to get things started) and if you’re going through insurance like I did, each procedure takes 15 days for insurance to approve so if I ever needed to do any testing or go through the actual procedures I would have to skip a month so it could go through insurance. Luckily I went to a clinic which was on top of everything for me and made sure things were moving along as scheduled but my infertility journey took over 2 years  I had to go through 3 IUIs, 3 egg retrievals, and two FETs before I was successful. Currently have a newborn baby boy from my second transfer and I am fully aware of how lucky I am. The journey to get there was really hard, someone on these boards once said IVF is a marathon not a race and I couldn’t agree more. It takes awhile and it is taxing and tough on your body and your mind. The truth is that you will end up shouldering the burden much more so than your husband will. Sure he will be dealing with certain small procedures here and there but if you end up needing IVF it will be mostly you going through it. You have to try not to resent that fact during this process. My husband was there as much as he could be and that helps. I wish you the best of luck. Be kind to yourself and reach out to people IRL or on these boards because that will help keep you sane. 

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