(Closed) Manipulative MOH

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2379 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think if you know your friendship is over or won’t be the same after the wedding then I think you will regret having her in your wedding party let alone be Maid/Matron of Honor. You will have to look back at the photos forever and she’ll be in them. I’d asK her to step down from the bridal party but maybe to keep the peace a bit invite her as a guest. I really think you will regret having her in the party let alone be your mOH. 

Post # 4
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I was in this same situation! You can read one of my first posts.. and I, like you, am not confrontational. But, when it came to my wedding, I realized it just wasn’t worth it, I asked her to step down and we are no longer friends. Truthfully, it is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life! Your wedding is suppose to be stress free (or as much as possible, haha) and filled with joy, not manipulative people who are suppose to be by your side. I am all about being a low maintenance bride, the most important thing to me is to have someone standing next to me on that day, as I marry my best friend, her standing next to me is a symbol of her support and continued support throughout the years. Who would you rather stand next to you? You decide! Good luck with all of this – I can totally relate 🙁

Post # 5
7736 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@augustbride1991:  Dump her from the bridal party. I’ve heard that doing this is a friendship-ending move, so if the friendship is going to end anyway, you might as well dump her now rather than have her in your wedding photos for the rest of your life.

If you do, make sure you pay for the dress and any other expenses she’s incurred.

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