Post # 1
I really dont want to come across as a bridezilla, but i really have a problem with my Maid/Matron of Honor. We were roommates and close before my engagement, and shortly after I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor is when things started to get bad. Wedding related or not, she began to manipulate me to get her way on everything. She does everything she can to get me to act or choose a certain way that will benefit her. What’s worse is my other bridesmaids have seen it, and my fiance has approached me as well about it. It seems pretty obvious when a guy recognizes this about his fiances friend, and has also told me she is too self absorbed to be a true friend to anyone.Him and I have agreed that my relationship with her is toxic, and would be best to not continue the relationship after the wedding. I know its really really bad manners to ask a maid of honor to step down, but at the same time I feel like i should, especially since i have talked to her before about being manipulative, which is a big step for me since I am the type of person who hates confrontation, making others feel bad, and telling a friend no. I’m pretty torn and not sure what i should do?
Post # 3
I think if you know your friendship is over or won’t be the same after the wedding then I think you will regret having her in your wedding party let alone be Maid/Matron of Honor. You will have to look back at the photos forever and she’ll be in them. I’d asK her to step down from the bridal party but maybe to keep the peace a bit invite her as a guest. I really think you will regret having her in the party let alone be your mOH.
Post # 4
I was in this same situation! You can read one of my first posts.. and I, like you, am not confrontational. But, when it came to my wedding, I realized it just wasn’t worth it, I asked her to step down and we are no longer friends. Truthfully, it is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life! Your wedding is suppose to be stress free (or as much as possible, haha) and filled with joy, not manipulative people who are suppose to be by your side. I am all about being a low maintenance bride, the most important thing to me is to have someone standing next to me on that day, as I marry my best friend, her standing next to me is a symbol of her support and continued support throughout the years. Who would you rather stand next to you? You decide! Good luck with all of this – I can totally relate 🙁
Post # 5
@augustbride1991: Dump her from the bridal party. I’ve heard that doing this is a friendship-ending move, so if the friendship is going to end anyway, you might as well dump her now rather than have her in your wedding photos for the rest of your life.
If you do, make sure you pay for the dress and any other expenses she’s incurred.