(Closed) Manipulative mother. Should I change my plans?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@vitani88:  Sounds like very thoughtful and considerate plan.  Go for it! Your mom will get over it 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s your wedding – do it your way!  I’m sure your mum will get over it.  She should be excited to do whatever you want on your day and it sounds like you’re being pretty reasonable.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

“we’ve been catering to everyone else and it’s just not what either of us really want.”

Sounds you and Fiance will regret having the wedding in NC. Many people do DW- if this is what you and Fiance have decided (and it seems you’re paying for it all yourself), go with it. If Mom keeps giving you guilt, stop talking to her about the wedding.

Yes, it would be crappy for your Mom to do the drive twice, but it is what it is. However, I don’t think she’s being unreasonable for “refusing” to drive 10 hours straight- do you want her wiped out when she gets to your wedding? Can your brother fly to the wedding, so he doesn’t miss any school? He’d probably just miss one day, correct?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

What other time do you get to get married in Disneyworld? I say do it! that sounds awesome. Your mom loves you and she will get over it!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

There is only one person being selfish and that is your mother for not allowing you to have YOUR wedding where YOU and your Fiance want it to be.

I had a similar reaction with my mother so I know it is hard – I am travelling al,most 5,000 miles for our Destination Wedding just to make it easier for my family to be there.. and that meant they had about 200 miles to travel – my mother when told where we had booked the venue – said “was there no where closer to here”!!!!!!  At some point you just have to decide WHO you are trying to please with your wedding them or you??

Good Luck 🙂

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

so in her opinion it’s okay to make his family travel but they can’t drive for half a day (figure in breaks)?  odd.  Sounds like money isn’t a problem on their half and she just doesn’t want to travel any. Do what you want, she’ll get over it. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@vitani88:  ok, if she’s done this before, than that argument just got thrown out the window. :)-

I would love to be invited to a Disney wedding- it’ll be great!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you are the one paying for it then you need to do what you want. I have been learning with my wedding that you can’t make every single person happy. As long as you are happy, everyone will be happy for you.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Its YOUR wedding, and you’re not getting married to put anyone out.  Plan what you want and your family will be there for you…

UNLESS you mom is paying for a majority of it, and if thats the case, then you really dont have much of a say.  Sorry.

 

 

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My family and I have been driving from Virginia to Orlando three times a year every year for basically my whole life.  It’s not that bad.  Tell them to put in a good CD and start jamming and they will be there in no time!  Have your Disney wedding! 

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