Post # 1
It’s just a feeling. I’m very young though. (16) I don’t have a dysfunctional family, no abuse. I just want that love. I know it sound silly comming from my age, but I’m mature from my age. I’m not interested in dating, or shopping or anything similar. I right now I’m focused on getting into college. I need to prepare for my big futreal so it makes sense that I want to be an adult. I want that respect. Anyways, I want that affection and love from someone. But I’m not getting married young. Had anyone felt this way before?
Post # 3
16 is pretty young for wanting a marriage.
Truthfully, and I mean this as politely and genuinely as possible — you don’t know yourself.
You’re going to change a lot from now until you’re 20. I’m only 25 and when I was 16, I laughed at the person who told me that. It’s one of those “you don’t believe it til you live it” kind of things… plus I think a bit “typical 16 year old” too.
I commend you for concentrating on your education. That’s something nobody will ever be able to take from you.
Educate yourself and build a future for yourself. Make sure you can stand on your own two feet, emotionally and financially before you enter into any sort of “marriage like” relationship.
Concentrate on yourself, and love will come.
Also, you can find love, affection, stability & security outside a marriage.
Best wishes to you!
Post # 4
I have to agree with @Hyperventilate. I’m almost 24, and I am a completely different person than I was at 20. 15-mid 20s are crazy, unpredictable years. You can change your mind about things at the drop of a hat. You have your whole life to be married and settle down. Enjoy being a teenager. Live unpredictably and have fun. Make some mistakes and learn from them. Most importantly, get an education.
When I was 19 I got into a serious relationship. I moved across the country, skipped college, and threw myself into the relationship whole heartedly. At 21, we broke up. I lost my friends and family from moving, had no education other than a high school diploma, and I had to learn how to be young all over again. You have to learn independence, stability, and love BEFORE you get into a relationship.
I know you want to be an adult, and I know you will hear this over and over again, but enjoy being a teenager with no responsibilities. Once you grow into an adult and have those responsibilites, you’ll wish they were gone and you were 16 again. It’s a double edged sword, really.
Love will come when the time and person is right! I promise! 🙂
Post # 5
When I was 19 I felt the same way you did. I never dated in highschool, but at 19 I really wanted to fall in love with someone. Marriage wasn’t really in view though, but I know what you mean that you want to feel that affection and love from someone. I know 16 year old boys though! You probably won’t find it yet. I started dating my SO just after I turned 20 and that’s when I feel life really started for me. Finding your partner in life is great.
I hope you find yours in the future!
Post # 6
I think it’s something that is engrained in women from a young age. I used to spend my time worried about the relationships I didn’t have like having a SO. But I have spent so much time thinking about what I didn’t have that I missed out on relationships with family and friends. I also thought that every man was the one. All i can say is focus on the relationships you do have,enjoy your friends and family And figure out who you are before becoming ‘one’ with someone else.
Post # 7
What? Youre young enjoy it!
Post # 8
@vivalavida: I’m 21, married 12 days ago, work as a domestic violence victim advocate & am getting my college degree.
Trust me, all of these things don’t necessarily mean people treat you with respect from one adult to another. Ageism exists & I expect to continue to experience it until well into my 20s.
Let love find you in its own time, and trust those a little older when we say that there is so much about life that you won’t know until you live it, so enjoy your youth while you can. You can never get it back.
Post # 9
I understand your feeling but marriage is not the only place to get it. I’m 24 and waiting but I met my SO at your age, just before college. You could ask my sister, I LOVE love 🙂 It is an amazing feeling but you should find it before marriage. … Don’t you remember the saying, “first comes love, then comes marriage…”