Post # 1
I need some advice as to how to handle the out of town guests. There are a significant number of guests that would have to come to Canada from Europe that are close family to the groom (aunts, uncles and such). Is it considered poor form to send them the invites before booking my venue in order to determine the number of attending guests? This would help me make a better choice about my venue – since if the entire family comes, that could adjust my attendance numbers but anywhere from 20-50 people – which has a significant impact on the rental costs and space required.
Post # 3
@kritter_82: You can casually ask people, but you cannot invite them that early. Also any of the responses you get will be purely hypothetical and will more then likely be inaccurate.
Post # 4
We planned on 100+, many coming from Europe. We sent out verbal feelers, but you must take into consideration that even those that said they’d come won’t in the end. Book the venue you want, figure out how to make it work after. Also, what if you sent your invites and then the venue became unavailable on the date you had on your invites?
Post # 5
i had that dilemma too.. so i did casually ask my family, aunts, uncles, cousins who were flying either out of state or internationally to get a rough feel.. but in the end we end up booking our ceremony venue we wanted and a reception venue that would be able to expand seatings as guest counts increase.. we will see how that goes.. i am only assuming that 1/3 of the out of towners will be coming for sure…
However, our ceremony site can only accomodate 110 max and our guestlists is 170.. soooo we are having this other dilemma of whether we should invite everyoneee and hope guest attendance to the ceremony wont be over 110 or just have two groups of guestlist (1 group that are invited to ceremony and reception and one group of reception only)…
it is tough to plan when most guests are out of town but ohhhh wellsss.. we can just do our best soo we will be breaking some etiquette rules and having two gueslists…