(Closed) Many Questions

posted 13 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Consulted with the programs that my mother saved from the last several weddings she’s been to, and those who did a unity ceremony did it last. I think that’s generally what I remember folks doing at weddings I’ve been to as well. So my guess would be that since there are vows (or at least fancy words) involved with the rings, you want to sort of keep all that "serious" stuff together. I dunno. Just what I’ve seen. And I guess that means they just went straight to the pronouncement, so that’s cool too. Seems odd to me, I’d think it’d sound like, "okay, the sand’s done, NOW they’re married" but I’m pretty sure I way overthink these things.

You have two #2’s btw.

As for the who walks with who, I got nothing. Any ushers? They’d usually walk your mom/grandmothers. I guess you’ll have the best man and groomsman walk all the older ladies. Not sure on the logistics of that. The MoH and Bridesmaid or Best Man can walk themselves in, and walk out with the GM’s?

On the music, I’ll probably have seperate, just because the song I picked for the girls is barely long enough for me to feel confident the FG’s will get down before it’s over. And it seems like everyone gets honored more, if they have their own music. But I think that could be more of a personal preference?

I have no idea why I’m trying to answer these questions. The ceremony is the part I feel the *least* confident with in my own wedding! Good luck, HTH!

Post # 4
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

We did our sand ceremony after the vows and after the ring exchange.

I’m not sure about walking though. Sorry.

Post # 5
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think you can do whatever you want, but my friend who got married this past Decmeber put it after the vows and before the ring exchange. It’s important that the officiant has good transitions going from vows to segwaying into sand ceremony and theninto the ring exchange…

 I agree that it sounds random.  I think the pronouncement should go after the ring exchange.  Therefore, sand ceremony should go before.  


You can have whoever walk down whoever.   However, with what you have, this is what I would do but not necessarily in this order…

1. Grandma and Grandpa

2.  Grandma and 1 Groomsmen

3.  His mom and dad

4.  Best man and your mom (You can interchange Groomsmen and Best Man)

5. 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man

6.  1 Maid/Matron of Honor (I don’t know how she and you would feel about this, but I would have my BM/MOH walk by themselves right before I come out with my father.I think it’s perfectly fine to have them walk by themselves.  I went to a weddig before where the GMs didn’t walk down at all and were already standing by the altar while the girls walked down by themselves – there were 4 of them!)

7.  You and your father.


Two songs is perfectly fine.  I decided to only do 1 if you can believe that! ๐Ÿ™‚

 Basically, do whatever you want! ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 7
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Welp, if that wasn’t an awesome thread if I ever saw one … questions were asked, questions were answered, and we’ve got a happy bride to be.


Happy Friday ladies ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 9
226 posts
Helper bee

Can’t answer most of the questions, but if you’d like someone to read over your ceremony wording (who won’t be there haha) you can PM it to me and I’ll see if I can help. I have no formal writing training though but I can usually hear if something sounds "off". Just an idea!
Best of luck!!!

Post # 10
1308 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Here was the order of my ceremony:

1. Opening words – the minister welcomed guests and talked a little about the bride and groom.

2. Prayer – The minister prays for the bride and groom.

3. Ackknowledgment of family and friends – minister talked about marriage joining families and friends and then thanked families and friends for supporting the couple.

4. Marriage Address – minister gave his own words on marriage. Talked about the importance and significance of the ceremony & marriage.

5. Group Vows – Declaration – We had then minister then all guests to stand and repeat vows to support us before we exchanged our own vows.

6. Statment of intent – in which we answer "I Do."

7. Vows

8. Ring exchange

9. Sand Ceremony – we walked a few feet to where the sand was set up, and as we walked and then poured the sands, the minister talked about the meaning of the sand ceremony. When we were done, we just turned around and came back to standing in front of the minister (holding hands as before).

10. Declaration of marriage.  

 Hopefully that will give you an idea of how a ceremony can be set up.

Post # 11
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We did ours after the vow exchange and before the ring exchange. I think as long as you have a smooth transition of words than it should be okay. It’s fine to use however many songs you want, I would just make sure that there is good transitions between songs.

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