Post # 1
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Bumble bee
Wasn’t sure if anyone else was going to do it do we’re we go for March!
If you all are familiar w/Mr. Bee’s Plan, this thread is for those who find waiting’s driving them crazy, and are up for making a pact to stick to Mr. Bee’s plan.
Here is an outline of Mr. Bee’s Plan:
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/mr-bees-three-step-plan-and-backup-plan-for-getting-engaged
And here’s the thread where the Plan Pact started:
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/anyone-up-for-a-mr-bees-plan-pact
Every week, there’s a check-in, usually Wed. or Thursday, but whichever day you feel like posting something, feel free to post! We’ll post our progress, failures, feelings, what have you, but ultimately the goal is to be happy and not let waiting get the best of us. Looking forward to hearing from you ladies, and thank you to the ladies who joined in on the last plan pact!
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
yaaaa. count me IN.
Doing very well this week.. though i have been SUPER busy at work soo i havent had much time to think.
Post # 4
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Worker bee
@MrsGolden2Bee: I’m doing it! It’s been going great so far. I hung out with some girlfriends last Sunday, and am having another girls night this Saturday. The gym has been slipping because of craziness at work, but I’m trying to get back on the bandwagon, so to speak.
Also, I made a list of goals to keep me occupied in the meantime. SO has been pretty responsive to my newfound independence, and I fully intend on keeping it up.
Here’s the list:
- Lose 15 lbs (down to 115)
- Save money
- Actually fold our laundry after I wash it
- More girls nights
- Stop biting my nails (for when that ring actually shows up!)
- Get more responsibility at work (already happening)
- Start painting again
- Start writing again (about non work-related things)
- Run a 10k
- Read 1 book a month (this might not seem like a lot, but I’m a proposal writer for the government and read/write ALL DAY LONG).
Keep to the plan ladies! Best of luck 🙂
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I’m trying bees, I really am. I was doing so well and yesterday and today has been so bad. So so bad. I can’t even look at him right now or I will burst into tears. There is no rational reason for me feeling this way. I hate hormones.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
Honestly honestly?
I dont even want to get engaged right now. I feel like total bunk. I feel like envying to marry him is one of the stupidest ides in the world and the dumbest plan I’ve ever had. That maybe I should just stick to being his girlfriend incase I ever need an easy out. That marriage is antiquated and overrated and my desire for it is slowly destroying my strength as a strong free willed woman. I’ve never felt so weak and pathetic and lacking control of my future in my whole life.
In short waiting is making me bitter, jaded, resentful and prepared to sy “f*ck this whole marriage bullsh*t anyway.”
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@MrsGolden2Bee: That’s what I absolutely hate about this whole waiting business. WE plan our lives together in every other way, why don’t I get a say in this matter?
Lately my waiting has turned rather depressive- what if he decides I’m not worth it? Obviously I’m not, as he hasn’t decided that I am yet. Blah blah…
Eww, just saying that makes me eeked out a little. This is the first month I am purposefully instigating Mr. Bee’s plan into my thoughts. Already set to do a workout class tonight and focus on my school and job. And have made heaps of plans with friends.
@readynwaiting- look at you! What a plan, I might steal some!
But then again, has anybody heard positive reviews on the Engagement Chicken? Because I have contemplated this at least five times today.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@missfrillycoat: I feel ya. Today I’ve slipped from anger to drepressed and beaten down. I feel like I was living in some kind of stupid fairytale believing that I would be one of those girls to get the “down on one knee I want to be with you forever” promise. Like he doesn’t feel like I’m good enough to be his wife but I’m good enough to be here every day. Today I just have no energy left. No fight, no hope and no desire for forever. Today I want to curl into a bubble bath and not get out until the universe meets my demands and hands over a better life. That sounds like a great idea actually. I’m going to go take myself hostage in the bathtub, and I’m not coming out until I’m good and pruny!!
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
@MrsGolden2Bee: Count me in!! Where do we check in every week? This post?
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
@FutureMrs.browneyes: Yup just keeppops ting on this thread.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Still on the plan and going strong! I don’t bring up engagement anymore, and rarely think about it anymore. I just don’t care much anymore, and it’s actually pretty great. I’ve been eating healthier and hitting the gym, reading more, keeping my nails and skin taken care of more and hanging out with my girlfriends more. I have plenty of stuff to keep me busy right now and for that I’m happy.
Our 4-year anniversary is in 2 weeks, and there’s been some activity lately that makes me think something might be happening soon, but ofcourse I mostly expect there to not really be anything to it, or if there is something to it something with happen to derail SO’s plans (something will break at the house, we’ll get a big unexpected bill, one of our cars will explode, etc) It always happens that way, just like SO finding out he wasn’t getting any money back on his taxes last month. It’s always something, it has been for the past 3 years.
SO has asked my dad for his blessing as of a few weekends ago which is exciting on one hand, but on the other I feel bad because I have a feeling now my parents are going to be waiting along with me for a while 🙁
meh
Post # 13
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Busy bee
@MrsGolden2Bee How was that bubble bath? I ate thai with my pop. omnom
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
Its so good to know there are other girls struggling along with me!
@readynwaiting58: I freaking love that on your list you have to fold the laundry right away. I am SOO bad with that too!!
Here’s my list:
1. Exercise 5 times a week
2. Lose 15-20 lbs over the next year
3. Request time with my friends more often (which i have so far!)
4. Request alone time. If i need to go have a coffee by myself i shouldn’t feel so selfish
5. Start reading more before bed
6. Continue training with the puppy. I want him to listen 100% soon!
7. Save money for the wedding
8. Continue finishing the house. (decorating and renovation)
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
@Rush1986: Love your list
Here’s my list:
– Get back into running 5 times a week.
– Lose 15-20 pounds
– Eat healthier
– Get our puppy trained more before we move into the new apartment( no backyard, ah!)
– Continue looking/ hopefully find a better paying job
– More time with my friends.
– Save more money
So far I’m doing good not telling my SO that I want to get married. But we have an engagement party this weekend. Ugh
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
@missfrillycoat: I think I might try the engagement chicken, my friend made it for her now fiancé and 3 weeks later he proposed!! Might I add they were together for a year, ugh!! My luck it would backfire haha. Are you going to try it?