- 7 years ago
Well bees, I feel a little lets nutso these days. Maybe it’s because I changed to a lower dose BC pill (yay!). Or maybe it’s because I now have a sister-in-waiting. Since I’ve been with my SO I became fast friends with his best friend’s Girlfriend. I happen to love them (both of them – as people and as a couple,) but she and I bonded more because we are the same age (and our boyfriends are a few years older than us, so it’s not toally normal in our social circle).
Well, the boys were away on a bachelor party weekend for one of their other friends. (Let’s just say there was no waiting in that relationship…we were only slightly bitter…) So, she and I decided to have a girl’s date night together. We barbecued at my place and then went out to local bars. WELL! As the drinks started flowing, we got to talking about marriage. She is pretty independent, so I was almost shocked when she said, “I just want to get married so bad! Even if he just gave me a ring and we were engaged for a long time. I can’t wait anymore!” I confided in her that I’d been feeling the same way (she and SO’s BFF have been together longer than SO & I, but they do not live together). We talked about our secret wedding planning, the kinds of rings we would like, the kinds of weddings we would like, and married life with our men.
Then I made a little slip. We were talking about weddings when I told her that I heard that my old friends from high school (who I talk to on occasion, but are not very close to anymore and have had falling-outs) were waiting for me to get engaged because they wanted to be bridesmaids and assumed they would be. She told me, “Don’t worry, it’s not about them, it’s about you!” So I said, “Well, if it came down to it and I had one extra space for a Bridesmaid or Best Man… I would choose you!” She was kind of surprised and said “Aww” but, I dunno, I really hope she doesn’t take that to heart, because I have been thinking about it and I would probably just have family in a bridal party. ACK! Did I say too much? I hope she is not disappointed if I do get engaged soon, and don’t ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Anyway, just wanted to let you know that if you feel like you’re alone, you never know…reach out for support, and you may find that there are other women in your life who can listen to you and help your through your waiting time. Or at least make you feel like you are not a nut who is just desperate to get married.