Post # 1
I have been communicating with this guy who is in the merchant marines since March. I met him through a family member. We went out a few times in March, and after 3 or 4 dates, he left for Japan. He communicated with me everyday via e-mail from Japan from March until July. Besides communicating via e-mail, he sent cards and roses from Japan for my bday in July. He came back a few weeks ago and since then we have been out every week-end. He’s been “prince charming.” – super attentive and the ‘perfect gentleman.” The obstacle is he leaves again in November and does not come back until March. That is the cycle – 4months away, 4 months home. I’m hesitant to get too involved or emotionally attached, knowing that he’s leaving again in November. Not sure whether to date him or break it off. I’m afraid I won’t be able to handle it in November when he leaves. Any advice on that lifestyle as far as if it would affect a marriage…he seems pretty serious. I’m torn as to let this amazing guy go because of a lifestyle….
Post # 3
Oh difficult situation! Well you know yourself and your emotions- what you can and can’t handle. its probably not fair to say someone isn’t worth a shot because of their lifestyle but in the same time if you will be completely miserable and self destructive with having your significant other away for months at a time, thats awesome something to consider.
The “military” board here and our Military Bees should be able to help you out more since they are living the lifestyle now!
Post # 4
It’s really a personal decision, but lots of people do it. I know I have. Do you think he’s worth waiting for?
It sounds like you handled the distance well before. You have to be independent and willing to live your life while he’s gone. If he’s okay with that and you’re willing to make some sacrifices too I’m sure you could make it work. We’re not married yet, but military relationships are tough. It’s a rollercoaster but totally worth it for the right person.
If you’ve got any specific questions feel free to PM me. Also a week or so ago there were a few military SO message boards posted in this section, maybe check those out, you might get more responses. Good luck!
Post # 5
@thursdayschild:Definitely very personal. Think about it–take some time for introspection.
The answer will come to you. It is a lifestyle. He we always have times that he is gone. He will work weird hours. It takes a strong and independant women who also likes to be a little old fashioned sometimes. I mean, there are tons and tons of different personalities of military wives, but we all have to be a different kind of strong than a civilian’s wife.