Marital Rape.

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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ladybuggzz2 :  I’m so so sorry for what you’re going through. Do you have any supportive friends or family who you can bunk with until you get on your feet? My advice is to take your children and your things and move out immediately. Since there is the risk of him becoming violent again, ask for a sheriff to be present during the move. File a restraining order. And get a divorce. Please be safe. And don’t harm yourself. You are not broken. You are strong, you are beautiful, you are loved and you can get through this!!

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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ladybuggzz2 :  I am not sure where you live, but there are several networks who work in supporting women who are trying to get past an abusive relationship. Do a google search. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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ladybuggzz2 :  “I want to die I think about it all the time how can I kill myself today

If this is how you’re feeling, please call the suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255. They have an online chat too: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/

Here are some Maryland-specific resources too (since it seems you might be from there): http://www.mdcoalition.org/get-help-now/crisis-hotline.html

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Talk to a lawyer about a divorce so you can split all assets and start over. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

You do not have to forgive or try to reconcile. 

I’m so sorry he did this to you. What an asshole.

I hope you can seek therapy to help you deal with your emotions.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You can do it. His reputation at church doesn’t matter. Your credit doesn’t matter. None of that matters. You need to get help to get out now. Please please don’t wait. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee

You need to go to the plice ASAP, as well as tell a higher up in your church what happened.  Your husband is a terrible man.  He is an busier rapist.  Press charges on him and get away from him as fast as you can!

Post # 11
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Worker bee

I would Also empty the bank accounts before I left.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

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ladybuggzz2 :  I’m sorry bee.  Your husband is a manipulator and an abuser, and you should definitely make moves to get away ASAP.

Do *not* make his relationship to the church of any importance to you.  He certainly did not do you the basic marital justice of treating you with value. The best thing you can do is look out for yourself, and do what is best for you and your children….and leave. One of my very best friends went through something eerily similar over a year ago, she had nowhere to go (lives on opposite coast of us all), but left him, went to a shelter, and within 1 month she was back in her own place. Your children need you to be strong for them. My friend was really put through the ringer and it hurts to see other people go through it too 🙁 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I am so, so sorry this is happening to you. You certainly can make forward movement without totally damaging your finances/credit with potential to recoup them. 1) Stop feeling bad for “embarassing him”. Chances are, you are not the only one he abused. It is more embarrassing to prance around like a leader of morality and then behave this way. 2) Leave, go to any potential safe place. 3) Get a lawyer and go to police 4) Cancel or put as many bills as you can on hold 5) Do this all quickly, like all in same day before he is there.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would kick him out of the house.  If the mortgage is in your name, then it would be a liability for you to leave him in the home (as he could trash it). File for divorce. Put the house in the market. I am so sorry you are going through this. Stay strong.

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