(Closed) marked by materialism

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: would you ask for a replacment ring if your ring wasn't what you expected or didnt cost that much

    yes because i wanted a particular cut or style

    no because cost doesnt matter to me, love does

    yes because i dont want everyone thinking he is cheap

    no, i cant believe he even proposed in the first place

  • Post # 107
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

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    @cantonbride:  Now you’re just being nitpicky.

    You knew exactly what I meant.

    Post # 108
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    @Hyperventilate:  No, not really. 

    Situation A: I am unhappy with my ring/love it but want a halo/want a new setting. Noncritical of others, solely posting about their situation and asking for advice.

    Situation B: I can’t believe people are unhappy with their ring! It is so unromantic and unrealistic! I just love my ring, it doesnt matter to me! I cant believe people would want to change it! Anyone who wants to change their ring is not sentimental and doesn’t care about their Fiance chosing the ring just for her! Critical of others, patting yourself on the back, moral superiority

     

    Post # 109
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

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    @cantonbride:  I love how biased your responses are. Haha.

    Post # 110
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    I said this in another thread but I think it is applicable:  My husband likes to say “You are high maintenance, but I love maintaining you.”  I wanted a one carat solitaire and he absolutely loves spoiling me with things I love.  How on earth does this make me a worse woman than someone how would gladly accept a twist tie? 

     

    Post # 112
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    @MrsFuzzyFace:  It doesn’t! 🙂 I bet you love your husband outside of his ability to spoil you. And just as much as the twist-tie, “I am just so happy someone would propose to me” girls. 

    Post # 113
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I consider posts like these trolling at this point. Why people come to the ring board to complain about how much they hate/are sick of ring posts and/or disparage other people about their ring choices under the thin guise of taking a stand for morality is beyond me. It’s like signing up to Makeupalley just to write posts about how vain and self-obsessed women who use cosmetics are, and how frivolous it is to buy makeup, perfume, etc.

    Post # 114
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @starla:  I agree. Not to mention that there are dozens of posts like this, already. It’s exhausting to hear this over & over again. I really wonder what these posts are trying to accomplish, if not to make those who are okay with smaller/more frugal rings to feel superior to those of us who prefer larger stones, or want a say in our rings? My DH wants me to have a ring I love, and he values my opinion, what exactly is wrong with that? I consider it mutual respect- I’m honest & open about my jewelry preferences, he considers my opinions and desires when making decisions that affect both of us. It’s pretty simple, and I don’t really appreciate people judging my relationship & how we operate.

    Post # 115
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

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    @cantonbride:  It is blatantly apparent that you fall into the “I want the ring I want” group, and so that scenario is written far more “level headed”.

    Thus, your “counter argument” scenario was written in such a way to mock and belittle those who feel such a way.

    Post # 116
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Let me get this straight.

    “The sentiment that my SO picked out the ring is more important to me than what it looks like, so I’ll keep whatever ring he gives me, regardless of what it looks like.” = I’m totally desperate for a man to marry me!

    and

    “I’m wearing the ring, and I want it to reflect my style.” = I’m a selfish, materialistic person!

    One thing I hate to see is Americans fighting Americans… err, in this case, women fighting and being catty to each other. Can’t we just accept that people have slightly different opinions about a thing (a ring) and let this thread die?

    Post # 117
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    Honey Beekeeper

    Sorry guys, but this thread has turned into a series of personal back and forths, which never result in anything good, so I’m going to close it now. I think it’s time to do what others have suggested and agree to disagree. 🙂

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