Post # 1
Hi, Bees –
We are picking up the invitations from the printer today, and I am eager to get them assembled and mailed out. I have seen a lot of good advice about marking them with the numbers from the spreadsheet to keep track of who is who in case people fail to write their names. A lot of people recommend doing it in a discreet spot, using invisible ink pens, etc.
My question is, does it really matter that it be discreet? I was thinking that I might just write the name(s) of the invitee(s) in the spot where their return address would normally go. Is there any problem with doing it that way? Do people just rely on the numbers to save time? Please let me know if I’m going to be committing some grave faux pas by marking the R.s.v.p. cards with guests’ names. Thanks, hive!
Post # 3
I put name labels on the back of the RSVPs! So personally, I think it’s fine.
Post # 4
I’m going to write the number in ink on the back of the response card.
I’ve also toyed with the idea of writing their names in for them. LOL. But that might take too much time.
Post # 5
I thought about doing the invisible ink and black light thing but in the end I just wrote names ont he back of the card in red ink (my rsvp cards were on red shimmer cardstock). I didn’t even bother with writing out full or even formal names. I just wrote things like “Uncle Bob or John & Mary” They were so discreet that very few people even noticed.
Post # 6
I don’t think so. If I had had the time and I didn’t think that I might muck up the envelopes, I would do as kalliope82 said and write the return address.
Post # 7
@KCKnd2: I pre-wrote everyone’s names on their RSVP cards. I didn’t want to play the code game or get any back unmarked, so I just went for it. I certainly didn’t hear anyone complain — that would seem like an awfully silly thing to complain about, unless I had somehow spelled their names wrong haha
Post # 8
I was planning to leave them to fill in their own names on the card where they indicate who is attending, entree preferences, etc. – I was going to just mark the name in the “return address” spot, so that if anything came back “declined” without a name, or if any of the responses were otherwise puzzling and mysterious, or, ahem, creative as some of them always seem to be, I’d have the name to track down and not necessarily have to go turn on my computer, open the spreadsheet, etc. to figure out whose it was.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
There is nothing wrong with refilling the return address on the envelope, but I think once you get started with writing out all the addresses the first time (for the invitation envelope), you’ll get pretty sick of writing them out again. It take a lot of time.
Post # 10
Nothing wrong with it but it just takes so much time. We just wrote a number on the back in pencil and the number corresponded to our excell spreadsheet with all our guests. Glad we did this because we had more than a few people who didn’t fill in their name.
Post # 11
Got it. I am getting the main envelope addresses pre-printed (handwriting just the names with the correct titles), and for the R.s.v.p.s I was going to write just the names, not the full return addresses, so it shouldn’t be quite so overwhelming. Thanks, Bees!
Post # 12
If only some of the people you invited can come, it might be slightly confusing who is vs. who isn’t coming if you’ve pre-written their names.
Post # 13
I plan to prewrite names in as well. Why not?
Post # 14
I am writing their names in the return address part with labels.
Post # 15
we had over 100 rsvps returned not one forgot to write in thier name. i only had a couple of mix ups with mr&mrs when we had two couples with the same name. give ur guests some credit and if they dont write in thier name u can usually straighten it out at then end when u see who hasnt responded. dontn make more work for urself u have way more important things to worry about.
Post # 16
I wrote their names. Granted, we’re only inviting about 50 ppl so it wasn’t any skin off my back. But after reading one nightmarish story after another on here about ppl receiving mystery cards I didn’t see why I needed to even play that game. I know you. I know your name. I want you to know I’m specifically inviting you and I don’t want to have an awkward conversation later with you about how you can’t invite your friend I don’t know that you just wrote in or make a bunch of calls to find out if your card is yours because you didn’t write anything at all. Nor did I want to keep some mystery code spreadsheet to track guests. No games, just names. 😉