Post # 17
I said slightly higher. I make more than Fiance but he still makes a really good salary and now we have combined expenses. Although our expenses are a little higher now because we bought a house vs. renting like before. I definitely couldn’t have afforded to buy a house on my own though so that right there is a vast improvement.
Post # 18
Mine increased drastically immediately, because I was going from a grad student working as a TA and research assistant to living on 50% of his salary as a software developer for one of the largest companies in the world. However, if I were to compare that to the salary I was making before grad school, it wasn’t that large a change. But, quickly thereafter, we bought a house, which increased our expenses substantially, as we got a really nice house to spend 5-7 years in and as a result our mortgage payments are a lot more than we were paying on rent before. Now that I’m about to start working again, I’ll happily be enjoying a much higher standard of living than I ever have before. So something of a yo-yo, but this is something I have reflected on; how much more money there is in my life due to his partnership with me, but how much less money there is in his life. I’ve never asked, but I wonder if that crossed his mind as a negative when we got engaged and bought a house together. I’m guessing not – men have the advantage in this situation of that whole provide-for-your-family stereotype. (Not that that’s a good thing in all circumstances.)