(Closed) Marriage and your financial situation: What’s changed?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Since getting married/combining finances, my standard of living is/will be...

    Much lower (way less money)

    Slightly lower (a bit less money)

    About the same (roughly the same amount of money)

    Slightly higher (a little more money)

    Much higher (lots more money)

    We do not plan to ever combine finances


  • Post # 17
    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I said slightly higher. I make more than Fiance but he still makes a really good salary and now we have combined expenses. Although our expenses are a little higher now because we bought a house vs. renting like before. I definitely couldn’t have afforded to buy a house on my own though so that right there is a vast improvement. 

    Post # 18
    1568 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    Mine increased drastically immediately, because I was going from a grad student working as a TA and research assistant to living on 50% of his salary as a software developer for one of the largest companies in the world. However, if I were to compare that to the salary I was making before grad school, it wasn’t that large a change. But, quickly thereafter, we bought a house, which increased our expenses substantially, as we got a really nice house to spend 5-7 years in and as a result our mortgage payments are a lot more than we were paying on rent before. Now that I’m about to start working again, I’ll happily be enjoying a much higher standard of living than I ever have before. So something of a yo-yo, but this is something I have reflected on; how much more money there is in my life due to his partnership with me, but how much less money there is in his life. I’ve never asked, but I wonder if that crossed his mind as a negative when we got engaged and bought a house together. I’m guessing not – men have the advantage in this situation of that whole provide-for-your-family stereotype. (Not that that’s a good thing in all circumstances.)

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