Post # 1
We are getting legally married 1 year before our ceremony (keeping it a secret to the grave). IT is for paperwork reasons but is still serious and exciting to me nonetheless. We are trying to NOT get excited because we dont want to take away from the REAL ceremony.
In this case would you exchange wedding rings at the courthouse wedding? It would feel weird NOT to exchange them. But on the other hand, we cannot wear them for a year until our real ceremony because we are keeping the marriage a secret until then.
I’m so torn about this.
Post # 3
We did this same exact thing–signed the papers in Dec. 10 but the wedding’s April 1. (long time, I know, but our anniversary is April 1 and its unique!) We are keeping it secret and we didn’t exchange rings. I still say I’m engaged and just don’t let anyone snoop in my wallet or see me sign my name because I changed it then.
Post # 4
We are doing something similar…legal ceremony and a committment celebration 6 months later. I want to exchange rings but we don’t have Fiance ring yet so we may wait. If you don’t want anyone to know then I suppose he really can’t wear a ring. May I ask why you need to keep it a secret?
Post # 5
If you’re keeping it secret, which I’m very familiar with as common especially for military couples, I definitely wouldn’t exchange rings. After all, you want something to look forward to on your wedding and if you do decide to exchange, don’t forget to take them off!
Post # 6
maybe you could exchange something else? I think that’d be a day you’d want a memoir for too 🙂