Post # 1
Hoping someone will be able to help with a quick query. When putting our ceremony booklet together I noticed that the ‘Lighting of the candles’ section where myself and my partner each light a separate candle at the beginning of the ceremony, is optional. However after the vows there is a ‘lighting of the marriage candle’ which doesn’t seem to be optional. Silly question perhaps but do we need to have the marriage candle sets that you see with the large candle and two taper candles? From googling I noticed that a lot of people seem to light the marriage candle using the two individual candles that they had lit at the beginning of the service. I had just bought the one large candle to use as we were skipping the bit where we each light our own candle.
Thanks in advance!
Post # 2
The individual candles represent two lives coming together as one. The one being the big candle. How are you planning to light the big candle together? You could just have two taper candles prelit before the ceremony.
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Post # 4
@theatrejulia I had planned to use whatever we would have used to light the individual candles. To be honest haven’t really thought about it that much until now.
Post # 5
We’ve both been baptised and were given candles at our baptisms that we are using to light our wedding candle.
I made our wedding candle
Post # 6
We did not have these…our church did not allow and said it’s not Catholic though I know others in same diocese who did have these. We were fine with it. I’d ask whoever is in charge, esp if optional
Post # 7
We had our marriage candle and two smaller candles next to it. When our parents entered they lit the two smaller ones together from a candle that was already lit. Then we lit our candle from our parents’ candles.
Post # 8
littleb33 : Where did the ceremony booklets come from? If they’re templates from the internet or a vendor, you should run them past your church. Catholic ceremonies can be very proscribed, with little room for customizing.