(Closed) Marriage Counseling with a Pastor… What should we expect??

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Our first meeting was kinda like an “interview” questions about how we met, family life growing up, family situations now, stuff like that

Don’t freak, I promise it’s not as bad as you feel it will be. ๐Ÿ˜‰

I don’t know HOW your pastor does it but we are following the book “Preparing for Marriage” with a Leaders guide that our Pastor has.

We’ve really enjoyed the process thus far and even though my Fiance and I have had a really good relationship & communicate REALLY well considering most, things have come up that we didn’t even think about & we’ve just gotten to grow even closer =)

Have Fun!

Post # 5
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wasn’t looking forward to our “counseling” sessions, but honestly I think they’ve been good for my fiance and I.  I feel a lot closer to him each time we leave.  The counseling gets some really good dialogue going between us.  My fiance has even commented on how he likes the things he’s been learning about me throughout the process.  Go in it open-minded and I bet you will take away some things that will make it a positive experience for both of you.

Post # 6
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We haven’t started ours yet, but our Pastor did assign us a book about Christian marriage to read before our counseling starts. The book is intended to start discussion about family roles, communication, habits, etc. After we read the book, we’ll start meeting with our Pastor.

Post # 7
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

The first meeting with the pastor is pretty straightfoward, like the PPs have said. He will ask you how you met, when you were saved, why you feel you are ready to get married, etc.  He will generally also talk to you about the importance of waiting to have sex until after marriage and not to live together until marriage.  At our church we were required to sign a pledge that said we would wait or refrain for the remainder of our engagement, etc.

We did Preparing for Marriage book with a mentor couple over the course of 4 months.  We JUST had our last session last night (the sex talk) and it was actually not horrible.  They gave us a set of CDs from Dr. Ed Wheat to listen to called “Before the Wedding Night” that we’re supposed to get through before the wedding.

It will be fine!  We loved marriage counseling.

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