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I’ve heard a lot of people telling me that 90% of the time marriage counseling doesn’t work. Despite that I still want to give it a shot.
Anyone have any recommendations? Preferably not too religious counselling would be great.
Please PM me if you have any good recs or if anyone has any experience with counselling that they would like to share.
PS. not premarital prep counselling…something a bit more personal
Post # 3
I live in California, so I have no recs for you :), but I would just say that our marriage counselor helped my husband and I through one of the toughest points of our relationship. We went to pre-marital counseling through our church months before the wedding, started seeing her privately a week or two before the wedding, and continued the private sessions after the wedding for a few months.
I think that counseling helps when a couple needs to learn certain skills, like communicating, compromising, etc… However, I think it’s really helpful when a situation becomes too overwhelming. For my husband and I, something came up that we just couldn’t “talk out.” It was too emotional and too big. We needed someone else there, not only to moderate our conversation, but also to explain what was really happening. Sometimes arguments and situations have deeper, underlying roots, and a marriage counselor can help unveil what the real problems are so they get resolved.
I think sometimes counseling can seem embarrassing because you do have to have a certain vulnerability and honesty in the counselor’s office, but if you can both do that, I think counseling can really work wonders. Also, I beleive Mrs. CandyCorn started a thread a while back about her experiences in marriage counseling. It was really encouraging, and if I can find it, I will post the link here for you to read.
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- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Marriage counseling usually doesn’t “work” (as in, the couple splits anyway) because people usually don’t go until they’ve already determined that they don’t want to continue to work on the relationship. If you’re both still committed, it might help you work through your issues. But even if it doesn’t, that doesn’t mean it isn’t “working”–people who seek counseling but can’t save their marriages can still use the counseling to learn something valuable about themselves and be better prepared for future relationships.