(Closed) marriage counselor??

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I live in California, so I have no recs for you  :), but I would just say that our marriage counselor helped my husband and I through one of the toughest points of our relationship.  We went to pre-marital counseling through our church months before the wedding, started seeing her privately a week or two before the wedding, and continued the private sessions after the wedding for a few months. 

I think that counseling helps when a couple needs to learn certain skills, like communicating, compromising, etc…  However, I think it’s really helpful when a situation becomes too overwhelming.  For my husband and I, something came up that we just couldn’t “talk out.”  It was too emotional and too big.  We needed someone else there, not only to moderate our conversation, but also to explain what was really happening.  Sometimes arguments and situations have deeper, underlying roots, and a marriage counselor can help unveil what the real problems are so they get resolved. 

I think sometimes counseling can seem embarrassing because you do have to have a certain vulnerability and honesty in the counselor’s office, but if you can both do that, I think counseling can really work wonders.  Also, I beleive Mrs. CandyCorn started a thread a while back about her experiences in marriage counseling.  It was really encouraging, and if I can find it, I will post the link here for you to read.

Post # 5
Member
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Marriage counseling usually doesn’t “work” (as in, the couple splits anyway) because people usually don’t go until they’ve already determined that they don’t want to continue to work on the relationship. If you’re both still committed, it might help you work through your issues. But even if it doesn’t, that doesn’t mean it isn’t “working”–people who seek counseling but can’t save their marriages can still use the counseling to learn something valuable about themselves and be better prepared for future relationships.

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